Tunes to get through big life changes

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My con­tract has of­fi­cially come to an end with my pre­vi­ous ra­dio sta­tion and I am now free to pur­sue other pro­fes­sional ven­tures. As ex­cit­ing as that should be, I’m afraid I am a crea­ture of habit and have to dig deep to find any hint of ad­ven­ture in these new pur­suits. But, just like get­ting through a work­out that you dread yet know is good for you, I have found my mo­ti­va­tion through mu­sic and want to share my playlist for any­one go­ing through a big change in your life, re­gard­less if it’s pro­fes­sional or per­sonal.

“Ship to Wreck” by Florence + The Ma­chine

– The first step in mak­ing change is ac­cept­ing the fact that things ac­tu­ally need to change. And of­ten­times that comes with a sense of dis­ap­point­ment or even fail­ure. As Florence Welch belts out, “What was it that I did? Did I drink too much? Am I los­ing touch? Did I build this ship to wreck?” I strug­gled with why ev­ery­thing in my life (ex­cept Mr. Carter, of course) was fail­ing. My son helped me breathe through it all and find the light that was avail­able if I only took the time to see it. I re­al­ized that light pointed in a dif­fer­ent di­rec­tion than where I was go­ing.

– A psy­chic ac­tu­ally sug­gested I lis­ten to this song again. Not that I’m com­par­ing my­self to an iconic mu­sic leg­end, but for any­one whose ca­reer re­quires great sac­ri­fice on the part of the em­ployee, such as mine, it in­deed spoke to me. It sym­bol­izes the mo­ment you can step away from where you are and see it from a de­tached per­spec­tive. “Surely, you’re not happy now, you no longer play the game,” John re­lays oth­ers’ ad­vice to him. It’s at this mo­ment you re­al­ize you are happy with­out the anx­i­ety and judg­ment of the past.

– Here’s a tune you have likely for­got­ten about, but one with lyrics that rein­tro­duce you to the idea of be­liev­ing in your­self. “You gotta be cool, you gotta be calm, You gotta stay to­gether,” Des’ree says, and when you’re on the precipice of fear of the un­known, it’s a nice breeze that

“Watch­ing the Wheels” by John Lennon “You Gotta Be” by Des’ree

“Just like get­ting through a work­out that you dread yet know is good for you, I have found my mo­ti­va­tion through mu­sic and want to share my playlist for any­one go­ing through a big change in your life, re­gard­less if it’s pro­fes­sional or per­sonal.” pushes you back to firmer ground.

“Born This Way” by Lady Gaga

– Known as an an­them for the LGBT com­mu­nity, it ap­plies to any­one who feels out of place. Gaga says, “Don’t hide your­self in re­gret, just love your­self and you’re set.” At this point, you are be­gin­ning your sprint to­ward the new and re­dis­cov­er­ing the parts of your­self that you have al­ways liked and are fi­nally giv­ing at­ten­tion to.

“The Great­est” by Sia, fea­tur­ing Ken­drick La­mar

– It’s now time to of­fi­cially move on, and you have de­cided you will suc­ceed. Sia says, “Run­ning out of breath, but I got stamina, run­ning now I close my eyes, well I got stamina, I see an­other moun­tain to climb, but I got stamina.” You have what it takes to con­tinue to achieve in life, and de­spite be­ing a lit­tle shaky, you are no longer ques­tion­ing whether you have what it takes to ad­vance down it with con­fi­dence.

Now all you need to do is get those head­phones on and just keep swim­ming.

To read Melissa’s let­ter to her son in which she ex­plains what she’s been up to since her un­ex­pected fi­nal show on B98.5 and what she’s do­ing next, go to www.the­gavoice.com.

Melissa Carter is rec­og­nized as one of the first out ra­dio per­son­al­i­ties in At­lanta and has been heard over the years on B98.5 and Q100. In ad­di­tion, she is a writer for the Huff­in­g­ton Post. Fol­low her on Twit­ter @Melis­saCarter.

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