Michael and I have been friends for three years. That was his idea. I was instantly smitten, as though I had just discovered my soul mate. His version was slightly different. We were immediate friends, but in time I discovered that we had different hopes for our relationship. It has not been an easy process to communicate our expectations and navigate around the boundaries. At times it can be awkward, but I love it for what it is.
There is no guide-book to this sort of thing we have. Each day we learn from scratch how to be friends. Each time we hang out we are able to be a little more transparent, able to share more secrets, able to trust in deeper ways. This summer he told me about his first kiss, and I shared my fear of commitment. We talked about these things as we drove down a dirt road at midnight.
We are both wildly adventurous. We are both a
bit scattered, and full of dreams, often staying up into the night, plotting trips and planning our futures. “New York City? Can we get there on $60?” Research follows, and then we decide to just go for a hike or set off on another road trip. Neither of us stops working, even in play. I’m a blogger and stylist, Michael a photographer. This summer he captured our trip to Northern Michigan with Polaroid film. Our third summer in a row spent sailing, skinny-dipping, picnicking, wandering.
I don’t have many friendships like this one. This is new territory for me. Together Michael and I are learning one another at the same time we are learning ourselves. And through the process, through the wanderings, and the longings, and the miscommunications, we can sense this thing we’re building is one that’s built to last.
Jonathan is a stylist / fashion blogger wandering the globe. He loves good books, adventure, and French New Wave Films. Follow him @cultrkpr. www.culture-keeper.com
Besides rocking a camera, Michael is the bassist for The Soil and The Sun. He is proud to be a Michigan musician. Follow him @michaelnewsted. www.michaelnewsted.com www.thesoilandthesun.com