I enjoy reading your column, especially letters regarding young girls and their social skills. I have two granddaughters who have the normal drama, mostly with other girls. I worry their social skills are getting sidetracked.
I am interested in ordering your booklet about popularity. I’m sure the girls would find it helpful and enjoyable reading. I’m trying to give them insight and help them along to become fully functional, successful adults. Is it still available? Linda in Terre Haute, Ind.
Yes. The booklet was written in response to thousands of questions from readers over the years who were not naturally socially assertive and contains many useful tips. It can be ordered by sending your name and mailing address, plus check or money order for $7 (U.S. funds) to Dear Abby Popularity Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. Shipping and handling are included in the price. The booklet is meant for people of all ages.
The key to being wellliked by both sexes is: Be kind. Be honest. Be tactful. Don’t be afraid to give someone a compliment if you think it’s deserved.
If you think you’re not beautiful (or handsome), be well-groomed, tastefully dressed, conscious of your posture. (People who stand tall project self-confidence.) If you are not a “brain,” try harder. If you are smarter than most, don’t be a know-itall. Ask others what they think and encourage them to share their opinions.
If you’re not a good athlete, be a good sport. Be generous with kind words and affectionate gestures, but respect yourself and your family values always.
Dear Abby: My husband refuses to wear headphones. This means that when we sit in the living room together, I must put up with the blaring noise of whatever he is watching.
I do a lot of writing, and in order to think, I need silence. I have tried earplugs, but they don’t muffle enough of the noise. Now, when I have had enough, I leave the room. This results in us being in two separate places, which he hates. Is there another solution I may be overlooking? Loud in Maine
You might try noisecanceling headphones. However, if that doesn’t work, because you need to “hear” in your head the sentences you are trying to write, you may have to do your writing when your husband is not at home.