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Ellen Degeneres made her feel­ings clear. “I’ve said it so many times: We are not go­ing to have a child,” the day­time talk show host has stated of start­ing a fam­ily with wife Portia de Rossi. “I love kids, but not enough to have [one]. It’s such a big com­mit­ment.”

Un­for­tu­nately, Portia isn’t on the same page. The Scan­dal star, 43, has been beg­ging Ellen, 58, to have a baby, and it’s led to some of their nas­ti­est fights yet. “Portia has al­ways dreamed of be­com­ing a mother and des­per­ately wants to try to carry the child her­self. But Ellen is ab­so­lutely op­posed to it,” a source ex­clu­sively tells In Touch. Not only does Ellen sim­ply not want kids, “She’s also wor­ried that Portia’s is­sues with weight and ad­dic­tion will be­come a fac­tor again. Preg­nancy takes a phys­i­cal and men­tal toll, and Ellen se­ri­ously doesn’t think Portia can han­dle it.”

Portia’s had her trou­bles over the years. She se­cretly spent 30 days at Passages Mal­ibu re­hab cen­ter for drug and al­co­hol is­sues in 2014, af­ter be­ing forced to seek help by Ellen, as In Touch ex­clu­sively re­ported at the time. The 5-foot-7 ac­tress also sought treat­ment for an eat­ing dis­or­der af­ter hit­ting 82 pounds in 2000. But Portia’s a com­pletely dif­fer­ent per­son now. “Af­ter all the hard work she’s done on her­self, she feels like it’s a slap in the face that Ellen would even sug­gest a pos­si­ble re­lapse,” says the source. “She’s as­sured her a mil­lion times that she’d take ev­ery pre­cau­tion and see the best doc­tors. She can’t be­lieve how cold Ellen is be­ing.”

Portia first brought up the topic in an at­tempt to save their crum­bling eight-year mar­riage. But all it’s done is tear the cou­ple fur­ther apart. “She re­ally thought a baby would bring them back to­gether. But things are so bad right now that they’re barely speak­ing. And when they do, it just ends in a blowout fight,” says the source. “No mat­ter how many times they talk about it, they just can’t seem to come to an agree­ment. Ev­ery­one is wor­ried they will split up over this.”

They’ve been at the break­ing point be­fore. An in­sider tells In Touch that Portia was crushed when she be­lieved Ellen had cheated on her with one of their friends in the spring of 2014. “They’ve been through a lot,” says the source (see box). “It’s no se­cret things haven’t been easy, but Portia was re­ally hop­ing that hav­ing a baby could bring them back to­gether and re­mind them why they fell in love in the first place. But Ellen just can’t be per­suaded. She’s stand­ing her ground, and Portia is fu­ri­ous.”

And de­bat­ing giv­ing up for good. “Portia is kick­ing her­self right now. Her life­long dream to be a mother has been shat­tered,” says the source. “She’s re­al­iz­ing now that she’s at a cross­roads. And if she and Ellen don’t find a way to work past this, Portia won’t have a baby or a mar­riage.” ■

Ellen Degeneres and Portia de Rossi’s bit­ter fight over start­ing a fam­ily is de­stroy­ing their mar­riage

Ellen is stub­born as hell, and when her mind is set, there’s no chang­ing it.”


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