The other woman won’t let them be
Dear Amy: Last year, my husband had a brief affair with a woman who is the widow of his friend.
Iwas devastated. However, my husband has been honest, attended counseling with me, continues to apologize for his inadequacies and supports me daily with trying to deal with this issue and build trust back into our marriage.
Now that it is over, the other woman makes it a point to attend the same events we do. She positions herself to sit near us. We move, and she follows.
Do you have any suggestions, other than for us to sit at home?
Trying to Move On
Dear Trying: Your counselor might have a recommendation.
I don’t know you, so I’m going to tell you what I would do: The next time she positions herself near you, don’t run away. Stand your ground. Socialize exactly the way you want to.
Eventually, you could turn to her and use the “buzz-off” line.
You (coolly): “Oh hello, Helen — can I help you with something?”
She: “No …” (she slinks away). Send questions to Amy Dickinson by e-mail to email@example.com or by mail to Ask Amy, Chicago Tribune, TT500, 435 N. Michigan Ave., Chicago, IL 60611.