The other woman won’t let them be

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Dear Amy: Last year, my hus­band had a brief af­fair with a woman who is the widow of his friend.

Iwas dev­as­tated. How­ever, my hus­band has been hon­est, at­tended coun­sel­ing with me, con­tin­ues to apol­o­gize for his in­ad­e­qua­cies and sup­ports me daily with try­ing to deal with this is­sue and build trust back into our mar­riage.

Now that it is over, the other woman makes it a point to at­tend the same events we do. She po­si­tions her­self to sit near us. We move, and she fol­lows.

Do you have any sug­ges­tions, other than for us to sit at home?

Try­ing to Move On

Dear Try­ing: Your coun­selor might have a rec­om­men­da­tion.

I don’t know you, so I’m go­ing to tell you what I would do: The next time she po­si­tions her­self near you, don’t run away. Stand your ground. So­cial­ize ex­actly the way you want to.

Even­tu­ally, you could turn to her and use the “buzz-off” line.

You (coolly): “Oh hello, Helen — can I help you with some­thing?”

She: “No …” (she slinks away). Send ques­tions to Amy Dick­in­son by e-mail to or by mail to Ask Amy, Chicago Tribune, TT500, 435 N. Michi­gan Ave., Chicago, IL 60611.

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