She wants parents to meet, but he doesn’t
Dear Amy: My boyfriend/fiance and my mother do not get along. He says that because we have had many issues within our relationship, he doesn’t feel right about introducing my parents to his parents.
My boyfriend and I have been together off and on for six years. Our relationship has been good for the past six months.
How can I make him understand that it’s important to me that he builds a relationship with my mother and that our parents build a relationship with each other?
Is it wrong of me to ask this of him if he is not ready?
Dear Ms. Confused: You can ask anything at all of your boyfriend-slash-fiance. However, you can’t make him create or repair a relationship if he doesn’t want to.
I’m not sure why you are pushing him to have both sets of parents meet. You don’t provide any reason for your urgency surrounding this.
Repairing a relationship with your mother ismore important, if you and he are going to stay together. However, given the up-and-down nature of your relationship, he may not see your relationship as lasting long enough to make this reconciliation necessary.