Dividing proceeds brings out greed
“Trying to Decide Well” was concerned that a family gathering to divvy up personal items before an estate sale might turn into an avaricious melee.
Many years ago, my first wife’s bachelor uncle died. After the will was read, we were told that many of his personal items, including rings, rare coins and several antique gold watches, were on a large table in an adjacent room and that the heirs and their families were free to select items as keepsakes.
As soon as the door opened, one nephew and his two sons dashed into the room and grabbed the watches, rings, coins and other valuables, stuffing them into their pockets.
We were so appalled and embarrassed by this callous display of greed that we just walked out of the room.
Later, when infighting developed between the siblings and a cousin over the rather substantial real property in the estate, my wife legally disinherited herself.
To anyone administering a division of property: either specify who gets what or sell it all and divide the proceeds. Dear Reader: “Trying to Decide Well” was attempting to deal with this by offering an “early bird” sale to family members. I think that’s a good idea too.