She wants to skip the trip
Dear Amy: My sweetheart wants to plan a family trip. At f irst it involved our household and one other. Now it has expanded to include plans involving many other households.
I am uncomfortable with this, and have said as much.
The families involved have made suggestions to make me more comfortable, such as the idea that we can check temperatures, etc., but I think it is a dangerous idea to gather in this way.
How would you navigate this?
Dear Anxious: Here’s how I am navigating this sort of dilemma: I’m doing it by saying “no.” This can be surprisingly hard to do, especially during the holiday season.
I consider a no now an investment in a future yes.
If your sweetheart decides to take this trip without you, he should be tested just before he goes and maintain safe practices ( temperature taking, masking, maintaining good ventilation and social distancing). Then he should isolate elsewhere after he returns and reenter your home only after a negative test result.
You should assume that he will not maintain ideal COVID protocol while he is gone, but isolation and testing afterward should ease your mind.
Dear Amy: I have an aunt who may die within a couple of weeks.
Due to COVID I won’t be able to say goodbye in person or attend the funeral, but I do want to send f lowers and donate to a charity.
Does the etiquette surrounding f lowers/ donations change at all? Should anything be sent to the dying person in advance, or should it be treated like a regular passing and f lowers be sent to the family after?
Confused in B. C.
Dear Confused: Do not send your aunt a funeral spray. But if you think a beautiful bouquet of her favorite f lowers would make her happy, send them to her.
The most important thing for you to do for your aunt in advance of her death is to let her know how much you love and appreciate her. Whether that is through a card, letter, a video shot on your phone and shown to her — you have the opportunity to tell her you love her, and that she means a lot to you.
After her death, you could send a bouquet or a food basket to her nearby family members, and donate to a charity in her memory.
Dear Amy: My daughter graduated from college two years ago, with a biology degree and an desire to attend a physician’s assistant program. She did not get in anywhere last year, but I encouraged her to keep trying.
She had been working as a technician for an eye doctor. Last month, shemoved across the country for a new job, which pays much better, and she is doing well.
Now, a month into her new job, she has been accepted into a great PA program back East. She will have to move across the country and be in place 10 months from now.
When should she notify her new employer that she will be leaving?
Dear Dad: Congratulations to your daughter!
She should not feel any pressure to announce her plans until she is farther along in her current employment. Depending on the culture at the office and her relationship with her employers, I think six weeks’ notice is ample.