It’s easy to feel over­whelmed the closer you get to your day. Keep calm and marry on with this com­mon-sense check­list for the last month be­fore “I do.”

Martha Stewart Weddings - - THE PLANNER - text by JAIME Buerger

4 weeks out

Send re­hearsal-din­ner in­vites You want to give your VIPs plenty of no­tice so they can clear their sched­ules.

Write vows Al­low your­self the time to write from the heart. Things will only get busier from here, and your cer­e­mony isn’t the mo­ment to speak on the fly.

De­liver playlists A band may need to learn your first-dance songs and any spe­cial re­quests. While you’re at it, share any do-no-tor must-play songs with your DJ.

Buy at­ten­dant and par­ent gifts It’s not a must, but giv­ing your sup­port­ing cast a to­ken of ap­pre­ci­a­tion is al­ways a good move.

3 weeks out

Nail down cer­e­mony Dis­cuss the de­tails of the ser­vice with your of­fi­ciant. Also, make sure the peo­ple do­ing read­ings have a copy of the text so they can prac­tice.

Buy (or make) guest book Don’t for­get to pick up pens, too. (We love the color op­tions from Marvy Uchida LePen.)

Con­tact out­stand­ing R.S.V.P. s Phone or e-mail in­vi­tees who missed the dead­line; you’ll need this info to pass on to your caterer and to de­vise a seat­ing chart for the re­cep­tion.

Ap­ply for mar­riage li­cense State laws dif­fer, but typ­i­cally a li­cense is valid for at least 30 days; check us­mar­riagelaws.com to find the re­quire­ment for yours.

Pre­pare a day-of shot list Be sure to ID who’s who in your fam­i­lies and the wed­ding party so your pho­tog­ra­pher and videog­ra­pher know whom to cap­ture.

Fi­nal­ize day-of printed pieces Print cer­e­mony pro­grams, es­cort and place cards, menus, sig­na­turedrink signs, and the like (or com­mis­sion some­one else to do it).

2 weeks out

Cre­ate seat­ing chart Make life eas­ier by man­ag­ing seat­ing as­sign­ments on­line; try allseated.com.

Put to­gether wel­come bags Care pack­ages for out-of-town guests can be sim­ple or elab­o­rate. Be sure to in­clude a sched­ule of events.

Make fa­vors Get them ready now un­less you’re giv­ing edi­bles; those should wait un­til a day or two be­fore the wed­ding.

At­tend fi­nal dress fit­ting Think of this as a dress re­hearsal, and bring along your veil, ac­ces­sories, shoes, and day-of un­der­gar­ments.

Break-in shoes Prac­tice wear­ing your kicks around the house for a few hours at a time.

Get hair cut and col­ored Book this early enough that your hair can set­tle into its new shape, but not so early that roots have time to grow out.

1 week out

Pick up your dress Keep it on a padded hanger in a breath­able muslin gar­ment bag.

Pick up wed­ding bands And then promptly hand them off to your best man for safe­keep­ing.

Get a spray tan If you need some ex­tra color, do this 48 hours be­fore don­ning your dress to avoid stains. (We also sug­gest a test run a month ahead.)

Con­firm day-of time­line with ven­dors And pro­vide di­rec­tions to any trans­porta­tion you’ve booked.

Give fi­nal head count to caterer Cater­ers have their own guide­lines, but most will need the ex­act num­ber about three days out.

Drop off wel­come bags Leave them with the ho­tel’s concierge. There may be a fee (around $7 per bag) to de­liver them to guests’ rooms; you might avoid the charge if desk clerks hand them out as guests check in.

Gather all ex­tras for your venue Give your co­or­di­na­tor any fa­vors, place cards, cake servers, toast­ing glasses, and what­ever else has been in your charge up to now.

the day be­fore!

As­sign some­one to col­lect gifts/cards Des­ig­nat­ing a point per­son be­fore your wed­ding means no present will be left be­hind.

Give itin­er­ar­ies to wed­ding party This ex­tra step is well worth it to en­sure ev­ery­one is where they need to be at the right time.

Go for a mani-pedi It’s a smart idea to buy the pol­ishes, too, for any last-minute fixes.

Pack wed­ding-night bag And ask a friend or at­ten­dant to make sure it gets to the right place.

Pre­pare tips for ven­dors Check con­tracts to see if gra­tu­ities are in­cluded; if not, place each tip in a marked en­ve­lope, and en­list your MOH or best man to de­liver them. (For more on tip­ping, visit marthastew­art wed­dings.com/tip­ping­wed­ding-ven­dors.)

Get your beauty sleep A well-rested bride is a beau­ti­ful and happy bride.

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