Let’s hear it for dads ev­ery­where

Maryland Independent - - Community Forum -

OK, dads, it’s your turn. It’s no big se­cret that ev­ery year, Mother’s Day in May tends to out­shine the day in June set aside just for Dad. The gifts tend to cost more, the day’s ac­tiv­i­ties tend to be more in­volved and more “all about Mom,” and while churches and other com­mu­nity or­ga­ni­za­tions some­times host a Fa­ther’s Day break­fast, there are hardly as many events geared to­ward hon­or­ing fa­thers as there are to cel­e­brate Mom.

While fa­thers sel­dom com­plain about this com­mon knowl­edge that Fa­ther’s Day just isn’t as ex­cit­ing a hol­i­day, the ap­par­ent way we view the two dif­fer­ent days says a lot about how we view our male and fe­male par­ents — and dads de­serve more credit than we give them.

If you’re among the many lucky sons and daugh­ters of the world who had a fa­ther who put in the ef­fort, from the day you were born to the day you moved out of your par­ents’ house to forge your own path, you’ve got an old man out there worth cel­e­brat­ing this Sun­day.

Maybe make this the year you get Dad more than the sta­ple fall­back necktie or the hu­mor­ous Hall­mark card with the dad joke you couldn’t have said bet­ter your­self. This Fa­ther’s Day, put that ex­tra bit of ef­fort into show­ing your ap­pre­ci­a­tion for the dad, step­dad, grand­fa­ther, foster dad or other de­voted male guardian who put in the time to help mold you into the per­son you are to­day.

Maybe you had one of those dads who worked a lot while you were grow­ing up — pay him a visit or call him up and tell him you’re grate­ful for in­still­ing in you that same kind of work ethic.

Or maybe there’s some other les­son or value your old man passed down; this week is as good as any to let him know. As writer Um­berto Eco once stated, “I be­lieve that what we be­come de­pends on what our fa­thers teach us at odd mo­ments, when they aren’t try­ing to teach us. We are formed by the lit­tle scraps of wis­dom.”

Al­ways found it kind of hard to open up and talk to Dad? You’ve prob­a­bly got at least one fond memor y of an ac­tiv­ity you once did to­gether — fish­ing trips, ball­games, go­ing out for a movie and ice cream. What­ever it may be, make plans to re­live it again this week­end.

We also want to honor all the dads out there. Of­ten the un­sung he­roes of so many fam­i­lies, fa­thers de­serve to know they are ap­pre­ci­ated, re­spected and loved.

To all those new fa­thers-to-be who are busily and anx­iously ready­ing a nurs­ery, we thank you for the hard work you’re al­ready putting into the devel­op­ment of a child. To all you sin­gle dads and stay-at-home dads who are tear­ing down stereo­types as you master a non­tra­di­tional par­ent­ing role, we thank you. To the more tra­di­tional work­ing fa­ther who still makes time in the evening to talk with his kids or throw a ball around, we thank you.

And to those fa­thers who are no longer with us and whose lega­cies live on only in the beau­ti­ful mem­o­ries they be­stowed upon their chil­dren: We thank you and we re­mem­ber you and the im­print your hard work left be­hind in our hearts.

So let’s re­ward Dad’s ef­forts this Sun­day by putting in some greater ef­fort of our own. He’s worth that much and then some.

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