DEAR ABBY: I’m a 35-year-old single mom. I’ve dated a few people over the last seven years, but none of them wanted to commit. Several months ago, I started seeing “Joey,” a friend of a couple of years. He’s sweet, respectful, hardworking, and he helps me whenever I need it.
Joey is on the heavy side, but he’s clean and kempt. I introduced him to my mom, and she continues to say he is “gross.” She refers to him only as “that man” and never by his name. He has always been very polite and has never said anything to her out of the way.
My son and I have lived with Mom ever since my divorce, and I have helped her out with more than my share of the bills and groceries. I’m currently trying to buy a house, but the market is competitive with the low interest rates. I work full time, take great care of my son and do lots of chores around the house.
(March 21-April 19): Today, your career is highlighted. You may question authority and become more vocal and visible at work. Extra effort and attention to detail make the recognition positive. Tonight: Sentiment is replaced with an affinity for all that is contemporary and progressive.
(April 20-May 20): Faraway places and foreign people turn your thoughts away from the familiar. You may explore new philosophies and belief systems and be profoundly affected. Daydreams are vivid. Communication is delicate. Be cautious if speaking or writing about controversial topics. Tonight: Friends suggest adventuresome travels.
(May 21-June 20): You enjoy learning and are something of a perpetual student. You can learn a great deal at this time; old concepts are changing. Today memories of a grandparent or childhood companion will be vivid and meaningful. Tonight: Accept experiences from the past philosophically.
(June 21-July 22): A partner must be compatible with your relatives, especially your mother, to make you happy. Your generosity and sensitivity make you a delightful companion if you can overcome memories of old, lost loves. Romantic prospects improve today. Tonight: Date night.
(July 23-Aug. 22): Today can bring temporary weariness. Take care of old maladies and get extra rest when this occurs. Avoid those who are ill if you can. You are especially vulnerable. Get both sides of the story if there is disturbing news. Tonight: Take the night off.
(Aug. 23-Sept. 22): Love trends are definitely improving. You will be liberated from old heartaches or disappointments. A spiritual connection with a special person might form today. Existing relationships transform for the better. Tonight: Romantic opportunities arise that open doors -- pursue them.
(Sept. 23-Oct. 22): You can relax. There is a feeling of reprieve from demanding realities and pressures. Companions are less critical and more supportive of your ideas. Your home life is improved if you use humor and patience in communicating with family members. Tonight: Quiet evening at home.
(Oct. 23-Nov. 21): You can do some impressive writing today. Cards and emails, as well as stories and poems, flow freely. Neighbors are more friendly; accept invitations they extend. Return telephone calls promptly. They can be very important. Tonight: Socially distanced socializing.
(Nov. 22-Dec. 21): Conversations revolve around business. Today promises you information about and an understanding of certain financial matters. There is a
How can I convince my mother to accept Joey, or should I ignore what she says as long as he’s good to my son and me? – FOUND A GOOD GUY IN THE SOUTH
DEAR FOUND: Nothing you can do will make your mother accept Joey. Most parents judge the men in their daughters’ lives by how they treat their daughters, rather than a number on the scale. Has it occurred to you that she may be afraid your relationship with Joey could develop to the point you will no longer be around to do chores and help her with the bills?
From your description of him, “that man” is definitely a keeper. As long as he is good to you and your son and you care for him, please don’t allow your mother to discourage you. As an adult, it’s important to make your own decisions and live your own life without interference.
new awareness about what money really does and doesn’t mean. Tonight: Be ready to expand and experiment to assure success.
(Dec. 22-Jan. 19): You can make constructive changes today. It’s a good time to polish your skills. Complete work requiring analysis or precise measurements. New technologies and gadgets are an asset. It’s easier to clear away debris and get organized. Tonight: Tradition is upheld now.
(Jan. 20-Feb. 18): A subject that is hard to understand suddenly is clarified if you study diligently. It’s a perfect time to think about attending a meditation group and deepening your awareness. Seek healing and inspiration from the arts or contact with nature. Tonight: Deep rest.
(Feb. 19-March 20): You might be a bit more quiet than usual because you are especially impressionable today. You are quite psychically aware of the deepest inner feelings of others. Talk remotely in a group. Your humor wins new friends. Tonight: Others want to be closer.