INITIATING FIRST CONTACT
The thing about online dating? The “dating” doesn’t start until you’re offline. The purpose of the first meeting, then, is to prove you’re a guy worth seeing again. An easy way to establish credibility:
Arrive early and secure two stools at the bar. This allows you to chat with the bartender, and when she walks in, she’ll realize you’re the socially fluent guy with whom she was messaging. Greet her with a hug or kiss on the cheek and stay at the bar. Leave some space between your seats, as distance is a power indicator and helps establish intrigue; so does good posture. We’re not here to tell you how to have a conversation, but be sure to lock eyes and listen carefully. Experts say first dates should be limited to two hours. But play it by ear. Remember: The goal of the first date is to secure a second.