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DEAR ABBY: I went through an ugly di­vorce. My sec­ond wife, “Marci,” is a liar, a cheat and a thief. She claims she’s re­li­gious, but she gam­bles. She opens bank ac­counts that I’m not aware of. She tries to jus­tify what she has done, but she calls con­stantly if I leave the house. She claims she’s jeal­ous. I think it’s more of a con­trol is­sue, and I leave for peace of mind.

Re­cently, her rel­a­tives asked for a pri­vate meet­ing to dis­cuss her be­hav­ior and shared what I feared. Af­ter­ward, I called her sup­posed ex-hus­band and he told me they are still mar­ried. When I asked Marci to show me her di­vorce pa­pers, she re­fused. I have talked with my pas­tor and at­tor­ney. They said give her six weeks and then move on. What do you sug­gest? – TAKEN FOR A FOOL IN ALABAMA

DEAR TAKEN: Lis­ten to these two un­bi­ased ad­vis­ers! Se­cure any prop­erty or in­for­ma­tion Marci might use to take fur­ther ad­van­tage of you, and take com­fort in the fact that be­cause you are not legally mar­ried, you are not re­spon­si­ble for any debts she has or will run up. Un­der­stand that Marci is a con artist, and please do ex­actly what your pas­tor and your at­tor­ney have in­structed. If she keeps call­ing, block her or change your phone num­ber. And if she stalks you – and she may – talk to the po­lice.

DEAR ABBY: I’ve got­ten into wear­ing swim trunks in the summer as nor­mal at­tire. They’re good for the hot streets, and no one has said any­thing. I pair them with a white T-shirt or no shirt. I plan to do it again this summer. What do you think? – COOL DUDE IN PENN­SYL­VA­NIA

DEAR DUDE: If you’re in great shape and the neigh­bors aren’t scan­dal­ized, then what I think doesn’t mat­ter. (Swim) suit your­self.

I will, how­ever, of­fer this: A wise woman once ad­vised me to al­ways look my best when I went out be­cause in­vari­ably, if I didn’t, I’d en­counter some­one I wished I looked bet­ter for and re­gret that I hadn’t made more ef­fort. And you know what? She was spot on.

Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

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