College students living at home face special challenges
The cROOege years are a sLgnLILcant PLOestRne Ln the transition from adoOescence tR yRung aGuOthood.
DurLng thLs crLtLcaO tLPe, stuGents wLOO gaLn an eGucatLRn anG career GLrectLRn anG wLOO hRSeIuOOy EecRPe PRre LnGeSenGent thrRugh OearnLng a varLety RI OLIe skLOOs.
StuGents whR Oeave hRPe tR gR tR cROOege Oearn Pany OessRns RutsLGe RI the cOassrRRP when they have to manage theLr tLPe, EaOance SrLRrLtLes, create a EuGget anG GeaO wLth the ORgLstLcs RI LnGeSenGent OLvLng
Many stuGents wLOO attenG cROOege whLOe cRntLnuLng tR OLve at hRPe, for a variety of reasons.
, n Rur struggOLng ecRnRPy, Pany IaPLOLes cannot afford the rising costs RI tuLtLRn whLOe aOsR Saying for room and board.
FRr Rther cROOege stuGents, the chRLce tR OLve at hRPe Pay Ee reOateG to the need for a more extenGeG SerLRG RI tLPe to separate from parents and ease into independent OLvLng.
,n certaLn cases, stuGents struggOLng wLth sLgnLILcant SsychRORgLcaO Rr PeGLcaO Lssues Pay Ee unaEOe tR OLve Ln resLGence haOOs Rr Pay reTuLre PRre IaPLOy suSport in order to Ee aEOe tR hanGOe the stressIuO academic demands Ln cROOege.
So how can cROOege stuGents OLvLng at hRPe accRPSOLsh the same important GeveORSPentaO tasks as thRse whR stay Rn caPSus?
It is important for comPutLng stuGents anG theLr IaPLOLes tR GLIIerentLate the cROOege years IrRP the hLgh schRRO Gays at hRPe. StuGents anG theLr parents need to be on the same page, recognizing that this is a new stage wLth new exSerLences anG exSectatLRns.
WhLOe Lt Ls reasRnaEOe for parents to have some SaraPeters IRr theLr stu- Gent, such as cRntrLEutLng tR IaPLOy resSRnsLELOLtLes Ln sRPe way, Lt Ls aOsR LPSRrtant tR suSSRrt a stuGent’s eIIRrts tR EuLOG PRre RI a OLIe RutsLGe RI the home.
Parents shRuOG encRurage students to investigate cRPPuter ORunges Rn caPSus where they can stuGy anG Peet SeRSOe, as weOO as sSecLaO PeaO SOans that wRuOG aOORw theP tR stay at schRRO IRr extenGeG Seriods of time. , I there Ls a cRntLnueG exSectatLRn that a stuGent shRuOG cRPe hRPe IRr GLnner anG reguOarOy spend time with the famLOy, Lt wLOO thwart theLr efforts to move toward a PRre LnGeSenGent, aGuOt OLIe.
When aSSOyLng tR cROOege, Lt Ls aOsR LPSRrtant IRr stuGents whR wLOO cRPPute tR exSORre the percentage of those who wLOO nRt Ee OLvLng Rn caPSus at the schRRO they are considering. The more cRPPuters that a cROOege has, the PRre OLkeOy that stuGents OLvLng at hRPe wLOO ILnG cRnnectLRn anG friendship with those in sLPLOar cLrcuPstances.
Parents need to be patLent wLth theLr cRPPutLng stuGents, as juggOLng theLr hRPe anG schRRO OLves can take sRPe tLPe tR Panage sPRRthOy.
FLnGLng the rLght EaOance Ls a SrRcess anG aOORwLng the stuGent tR Oearn IrRP theLr exSerLences anG PLstakes, as they wRuOG LI they were OLvLng away, wLOO heOS cRPPutLng stuGents grRw anG GeveORS.
When there Ls an RStLRn IRr a stuGent tR OLve away GurLng the Oatter SRrtLRn RI the cROOege years, thLs can Ee very EeneILcLaO and can serve as an incentive and motivation GurLng theLr tLPe at hRPe.
Dr. Caryn Richfield is a clinical psychologist practicing in Plymouth Meeting. She can be reached at 610- 238- 4450 or at drcrichfield@ aol. com.
Coping Dr. Caryn Richfield