No confusion here with gender identity
I totally agree with the comments in the letter written by Bill Davis of Rogers re: the everlasting use of “you guys” these days. When I have replied, quite clearly and distinctly, “I am NOT a guy,” it is invariably met with a blank and vapid stare. Mr. Davis’ sentences were, “Hi, guys. My name is so-and-so and I will be taking care of you tonight. Can I start you guys off with something to drink?” Then, “OK, guys, here are your drinks and your order should be out shortly.” Next, “Can I get you guys anything else?”
Why isn’t it possible for restaurant owners, for instance, to firmly instruct their waitpeople that none of the “guys” or “you guys” should be used in these sentences?
Just eliminate them and you will note that the comments or questions make perfect sense without them. It is offensive to women to be constantly referred to as guys! It has occurred to me that one should always speak with the manager. Comments to the waitpeople have no effect!
OK, I am 86 and picky, and also a big fan of your grammar maven. Re: the last sentence, it is certainly possible that the waitperson “can” get you something else.
The question should be, “May I get you anything else?” I am disheartened by the fact that the majority of people these days just don’t seem to care at all about the proper use of the language.
Of course, it is impossible to change the mindset of so many people.
A habit like that discussed above is all too firmly ingrained.
However, if managers were to institute a specific rule re: this matter and impose penalties if there were infractions, it might help. BETTY J. BROKAW