No con­fu­sion here with gen­der iden­tity

Northwest Arkansas Democrat-Gazette - - EDITORIAL PAGE -

I to­tally agree with the com­ments in the let­ter writ­ten by Bill Davis of Rogers re: the ev­er­last­ing use of “you guys” these days. When I have replied, quite clearly and dis­tinctly, “I am NOT a guy,” it is in­vari­ably met with a blank and va­pid stare. Mr. Davis’ sen­tences were, “Hi, guys. My name is so-and-so and I will be tak­ing care of you tonight. Can I start you guys off with some­thing to drink?” Then, “OK, guys, here are your drinks and your order should be out shortly.” Next, “Can I get you guys any­thing else?”

Why isn’t it pos­si­ble for restau­rant own­ers, for in­stance, to firmly in­struct their wait­peo­ple that none of the “guys” or “you guys” should be used in these sen­tences?

Just elim­i­nate them and you will note that the com­ments or ques­tions make per­fect sense with­out them. It is of­fen­sive to women to be con­stantly re­ferred to as guys! It has oc­curred to me that one should al­ways speak with the man­ager. Com­ments to the wait­peo­ple have no ef­fect!

OK, I am 86 and picky, and also a big fan of your gram­mar maven. Re: the last sen­tence, it is cer­tainly pos­si­ble that the wait­per­son “can” get you some­thing else.

The ques­tion should be, “May I get you any­thing else?” I am dis­heart­ened by the fact that the ma­jor­ity of peo­ple these days just don’t seem to care at all about the proper use of the lan­guage.

Of course, it is im­pos­si­ble to change the mind­set of so many peo­ple.

A habit like that dis­cussed above is all too firmly in­grained.

How­ever, if man­agers were to in­sti­tute a spe­cific rule re: this mat­ter and im­pose penal­ties if there were in­frac­tions, it might help. BETTY J. BROKAW

Bentonville

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