Medicinal marijuana user is shunned by husband’s family

Dear Abby: My brotherin-law found out I smoke marijuana. I have a medical card and some mental disabilities. Marijuana helps with my anxiety.

Although we live near each other, my in-laws now say they don’t want me in their homes. The stress this has put on my husband is unfair.

How should I expect my husband to handle holidays or even regular get-togethers? I really need help. — Unfair In Nevada Dear Unfair: Medical and recreational marijuana are legal for adults in the state of Nevada. I wish you had mentioned how your brother-in-law learned you are using it. That it is being used as an excuse to isolate you is cruel.

How your husband chooses to handle further contact with his relatives will be his decision. Not knowing how close they have been, I can’t guess what his next step should be — except to point out that his first loyalty should be to you.

Dear Abby: I’m a sophomore in high school, and I need some boy help. I go to a small school, where there are only 60 sophomores, and we’re all pretty close.

There’s this one guy that I kind of like, but I don’t know how to strike up a conversation with him.

My problem is I have no classes with him this year, so I can’t do any of the “can you

help me with homework” or flirting. I’m hoping for advice on how to start a conversation, especially because we share no classes. — Small School Problem Dear Small School

Problem: Discuss current events, pop culture or school activities. Because many high school-age boys are interested in sports, find out which ones he’s interested in and ask questions. Unless he’s sports-averse, I can almost guarantee it’ll generate conversation.

Dear Abby: Today I received the best news ever. My son and his wife are expecting their first child.

I was so excited, I couldn’t wait to tell my husband. His reaction? “Don’t tell me ‘Cathy’ is pregnant! I hope your son will be able to support it!”

My son and his wife do very well financially. He has a great job. I always feel like no matter what I say, my husband always has to put a negative spin on it. Or am I overreacting? — Happy Grandma-To-Be Dear Happy: Your husband either has a questionable sense of humor or enjoys putting people down. Surely you knew this before you married him, so rather than dwell on it, choose not to let him rain on your parade.