ANXIETY VS DEPRESSION, Part 2
In my last article you learned that depression and anxiety come from two different places and have different affects on us as a whole. We discovered that depression comes from your past. It is that defeated feeling that leaves us with no motivation, energy or desire to do anything. After all, the past is the past, we cannot go back and change it. Thus, it can leave us feeling defeated. However, remember, we have the ultimate choice to use that past to make us stronger better people. That same past that may haunt us, also empowers us to be better for ourselves and others.
Now, let’s take a look at anxiety and where it originates. Anxiety comes from the future and our concerns about it, our goals, plans etc. How will we get there, what about all of the road blocks, can we actually accomplish it, and will we be okay? Anxiety is that overwhelming feeling or ultimate concern of, what is going to happen to me and will I be okay? It is that never ending mental storm that does not seem to let up or give us a break. As a result, we struggle to sleep, focus and tend to put things off, therefore, creating even more anxiety. This can affect us as we struggle socially and try to avoid some or any outside socialization at all. The very thought of getting out and around others can be debilitating. Sometimes, causing us to avoid even our closest family and friends. Just as depres- sion wants to keep us secluded, so does anxiety. It causes us to question everything we do or say, leaving us feeling insecure and even inadequate. This leads us to the question, “can anxiety be treated?” First, it is important to understand the cause, the concerns and reasons we may be dealing with anxiety. Is it chemical, trauma induced, a fear, or can it be a deficiency of some sort? Once determined, it is easier to move forward with treatment. Keep in mind, there are many forms of anxiety, for example, obsessive compulsive disorders, social anxiety, post traumatic stress, phobias and others. Anyone who has had to deal with a panic attack or anxiety attack is all too familiar with how debilitating it is both emotionally and physically.
It is without doubt, in that moment, all consuming.
What are some things we can do to help calm the storm? First, realize what is happening and that you can indeed control this attack. If possible, remove yourself from the situation and go somewhere you can be alone and refocus. Connect with your breathing, close your eyes and put all of your attention on every breath. Breathe in through your nose, out through your mouth, slow and cleansing breaths. Keeping your eyes closed, continue this until you can regain some calm and understanding of the situation. In addition, music is known to be very therapeutic, it actually does help us to relax. I am a firm believer of meditation, connecting to yourself, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Yoga is also a great source of relaxation and stress relief. It is imperative to take that negative, restless energy and apply it towards something positive and healthy. Consider going to the gym, cycling, running, creating art or even writing. I recommend to all of my clients that they immediately begin journaling. Not only during times of high anxiety, but before bed, especially. is important to take the concern and worry out of our head and put it on paper. Quite often, once on paper, things don’t seem to be as scary or overwhelming. Also, put together a healthy, calming, nighttime routine in order to help aid in a good night sleep. A bubble bath with essential oils, or a night time tea that promotes calm and rest. Oils or tea’s to consider may include but are not limited to, lavender, chamomile, valerian, passionflower, etc. I encourage a few minutes of meditation as well. Finally, instead of focusing on the big goal, create small milestones along the way. Celebrate each of those smaller goals as they are reached. After all, without accomplishing the smaller goals, the large ones would not be attainable. Celebrate the whole process. Also, as you set each small goal, focus on any and all road blocks that may prevent you from reaching this goal. Then, predetermine the solution for each road block, this way, once there, you have already fixed it and planned for it. Therefore, making the goal easier to attain and causing less stress and anxiety along the way. Do not allow road blocks to stop you from reaching your goals! There are always several paths to a destination. You are bigger than your fears and your anxiety.
If you have any questions or concerns regarding depression or anxiety that you or someone you know may me struggling with, please reach out. Be blessed and be a blessing! It is time to ‘OWN YOUR GREATNESS’ Debbie Warren Own Your Greatness Life Coaching 936 577 5679 Ownyourgr8tness@gmail.com Facebook @Ownyourgr8tness