SET­TING GOALS

Public News (Houston) - - PUBLIC NEWS - by Deb­bie War­ren

Set­ting goals..seems sim­ple enough. This is a very pop­u­lar topic be­tween my clients and I. Un­der­stand, the dif­fi­culty does not lie in set­ting the goal it­self, but in stay­ing fo­cused and on track, in or­der to reach our goal. First let me say this, there are many path­ways that may lead us to our des­ti­na­tion. Once we un­der­stand this, we can be­gin the nec­es­sary work to get there.

Where to be­gin? I can­not ex­press enough how im­por­tant it is to cre­ate a plan, a map per say, in or­der to reach your goal. Pre-plan for un­ex­pected road­blocks. Ask your­self, ”what are some things that may pre­vent me from reach­ing my goal?”

Iden­tify and name those road blocks? Next, how can we pre-plan for what to do, if and when those road blocks show up? The an­swer is in the ques­tion, we pre-plan what we will do. We cre­ate a solution to ev­ery road block we fore­see on the way to our goal. This way, we are best pre­pared to han­dle each one as it arises. For ex­am­ple, one of your ini­tial road­blocks may have been fi­nances?

How­ever, your solution to re­mov­ing that prob­lem was al­ready re­solved. You knew it would likely be a prob­lem along the way, so you pre­pared the solution while con­struct­ing the map to your goal. You al­ready de­cided to pick up some over­time to cover these pos­si­ble ex­penses. Re­mem­ber, it is not al­ways how we get there that is im­por­tant, just that we get there. Do not al­low road blocks to pre­vent you from your goal. This is one of the pri­mary rea­sons we give up those goals. We feel de­feated and over­whelmed by these chal­lenges along the way. Deal­ing with them one at a time, pre-plan­ning the solution, we have al­ready con­quered and re­solved them. Thus, the feel­ing to give up is not so height­ened, rather, we be­come em­pow­ered.

Rel­a­tive to these ob­sta­cles, let’s ad­dress one of the big­gest strug­gles along the way, rea­sons ver­sus ex­cuses. Is there a dif­fer­ence? Are we ac­tu­ally clear on which one we are us­ing at the time? Or, are we aware, but in de­nial? We are all guilty of us­ing ex­cuses as rea­sons for not do­ing things. What is the dif­fer­ence be­tween the two? A rea­son is some­thing very clearly in our way. This is why we call it a road­block. They ac­tu­ally pre­vent us from mov­ing for­ward and bring our task to a halt. Whereas , an ex­cuse is just that, some­thing we al­low to be a road­block. For ex­am­ple, a land­slide in the road is a rea­son for not hav­ing the abil­ity to con­tinue on that road. On the other hand, a rock that you don’t want to take the time to step over or move, is an ex­cuse. Keep in mind, whether an ex­cuse or rea­son, it does not need to keep us from at­tain­ing our goal. This is ex­actly why we need to put a map or a plan to­gether to reach our goals. We will use less ex­cuses and the rea­sons/road­blocks will al­ready have so­lu­tions. Re­mem­ber that land­slide in the road? You knew it could be there due to bad weather the week be­fore so you made the de­ci­sion to take a dif­fer­ent route. Re­mem­ber, it does not mat­ter how you get there.

Fi­nally, don’t look down the long road at your dis­tant goal, as this can be very over­whelm­ing and dis­ap­point­ing. In­stead, cre­ate mile­stones along the way and fo­cus on those, one at a time. Be­fore you know it, you will be at your goal. Also, re­mem­ber to cel­e­brate along the way. Each mile­stone is just as im­por­tant as reach­ing the goal will be. Af­ter all, how could we reach our goal with­out mile­stones? Each one is an ac­knowl­edg­ment of a suc­cess, bring­ing you closer to the end re­sult, your fi­nal step, and your goal. With that said, cel­e­brate each one, as each one is a big ac­com­plish­ment.

Be strong, be brave, you ARE more than ca­pa­ble! Ev­ery­thing you have ex­pe­ri­enced has led you to this mo­ment. You have ev­ery tool you need to be suc­cess­ful.

Please feel free to con­tact me if you need any help or sup­port mov­ing for­ward with your goals. We are stronger when we have a sup­port sys­tem. If you or any­one you know is suf­fer­ing from anx­i­ety or de­pres­sion, re­mem­ber, no one should ever suf­fer alone. Feel free to reach out, I would love to help in any way I can. Be blessed and be a bless­ing to some­one. Deb­bie War­ren Phone: 936 577 5679 Email: owny­our­gr8t­ness@gmail.com Face­book: @owny­our­gr8t­ness

Deb­bie War­ren

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