Go ahead — make dad’s day spe­cial

Record Observer - - Religion -

Through­out the year, many days of cel­e­bra­tion are tucked capri­ciously into the cal­en­dar. So much so, it is hard to find any day of the year where some­thing or some­one is not be­ing ob­served, which has ben­e­fited the greet­ing card com­pany, you can be sure. I am not pos­i­tive, but I think they have had a great deal to do with des­ig­nat­ing these days.

Some days are cel­e­brated a lit­tle more en­thu­si­as­ti­cally than oth­ers. The Fourth of July has fire­crack­ers; Hal­loween has funny and scary cos­tumes, not to men­tion bags of candy; and Christ­mas boasts the Christ­mas tree and jolly old St. Nick with all his presents, and it is hard to com­pete with Christ­mas par­ties when it comes to cel­e­bra­tions.

And we come to Mother’s Day. Ac­cord­ing to ex­perts, more tele­phone calls are placed on Mother’s Day than any other day of the year. Also, try to walk into a restau­rant and get a seat on that cer­tain Sun­day.

There is a the­ory, which I sub­scribe to per­son­ally, stat­ing the reason Fa­ther’s Day is so lame is be­cause so much has been spent on Mother’s Day, there is noth­ing left.

I think there should be a rule that says, what­ever Mother’s Day costs fathers, moth­ers should spend on Fa­ther’s Day. This would do one of two things: de­crease Mother’s Day or puff Fa­ther’s Day spend­ing. Per­son­ally, I am in fa­vor of puff­ing.

Per­haps with some ef­fort, Fa­ther’s Day could be a lit­tle more ex­cit­ing. I am not say­ing this just be­cause I am a fa­ther. Well, maybe I am, but if I don’t who will?

Fathers in gen­eral are rather hum­ble and he­si­tant to speak about them­selves. Con­trary to pop­u­lar opin­ion, ev­ery fa­ther knows talk is not cheap, and be­cause he has spent so much on Mother’s Day, he sim­ply is prac­tic­ing good man­ners and shuts up.

How­ever, ev­ery fa­ther needs to know he is truly ap­pre­ci­ated by his fam­ily. Al­though you can­not buy a fa­ther, it is pos­si­ble to rent him on oc­ca­sion.

I am in fa­vor of cel­e­brat­ing Fa­ther’s Day “any which way you can.” It re­ally does not mat­ter to the fa­ther in­volved. Any fa­ther would con­sider his child a “mil­lion dol­lar baby” if he or she would just give a Fa­ther’s Day card to him, along with a nice hot cup of cof­fee while sit­ting in his fa­vorite chair read­ing the news­pa­per. Noth­ing the chil­dren did through­out the year would re­main “un­for­given” if some­thing this sim­ple were done on Fa­ther’s Day.

As it stands, Fa­ther’s Day is cel­e­brated “ev­ery which way but loose,” and I be­lieve it is time this has stopped. Too many loose ends con­cern­ing Fa­ther’s Day. It is a “true crime” the way cer­tain things are left hang­ing con­cern­ing fathers. Some fathers have felt like “the dead pool” around Fa­ther’s Day, not know­ing ex­actly what to ex­pect.

Mother’s Day is rather sim­ple. Ev­ery mother knows that she will get cer­tain things; flow­ers, a Mother’s Day card and din­ner at her fa­vorite restau­rant.

By the time Fa­ther’s Day comes around every­body is so ex­hausted from Mother’s Day, not to men­tion most fathers are broke, no­body knows ex­actly how to make dad’s day spe­cial or, more im­por­tantly, who will fi­nance it.

Too many peo­ple are up­tight about Fa­ther’s Day and feel like they are run­ning “the gaunt­let.” When I say peo­ple, I am re­fer­ring pri­mar­ily to Yours Truly. No­body seems to know what to do about good ole dad on his spe­cial day.

For­tu­nately, I have some ideas along this line.

With some of the presents I have re­ceived over the years, I am be­gin­ning to think my chil­dren imag­ine me as a “space cow­boy,” or maybe a “high plains drifter” driv­ing around in a “pink Cadil­lac” head­ing for “the bridges of Madi­son County.”

When it comes to be­ing a fa­ther, I as­sure you I am not “the rookie” walk­ing on a “tightrope,” di­rectly “in the line of fire” run­ning to­ward “heart­break ridge.” I have quite a bit of ex­pe­ri­ence be­ing a fa­ther, go­ing back more than 40 years.

As a fa­ther, I have three chil­dren notched on my belt. At times, I have felt like “the en­forcer” and the only way to deal with those chil­dren was to use “mag­num force” and “hang ‘em high.”

I must con­fess at times I felt like a “pale rider” sweat­ing it out in the “city heat,” re­al­iz­ing no mat­ter how hard I try it is not “a per­fect world” we live in. What would make my day, and other fathers’ day, would be a present I could re­ally use, or at least un­der­stand with­out spend­ing an en­tire day read­ing the di­rec­tions.

In spite of all this, I have dis­cov­ered one thing; be­ing a fa­ther is its own re­ward. The Bi­ble puts father­hood high on the list of im­por­tant po­si­tions in life.

David, the Psalmist, put his feel­ings about be­ing a fa­ther into fa­mil­iar words to all who have read the Bi­ble. “Lo, chil­dren are an her­itage of the Lord: and the fruit of the womb is his re­ward. As ar­rows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are chil­dren of the youth. Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the en­e­mies in the gate.” (Psalm 127:3-5 KJV.)

This year, my ad­vice is, what­ever it costs, go ahead and make dad’s day. He de­serves it.

Rev. James L. Sny­der is pas­tor of the Fam­ily of God Fel­low­ship, PO Box 831313, Ocala, FL 34483. He lives with his wife in Ocala, FL. Call him at 1-866552-2543 or email jamess­ny­der2@att.net. His web­site is www.jamess­ny­der­mi­nis tries.com.

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