ASK THE UNDERTAKER
with a funny story, or a memory that we will never forget of the one who has passed.
Perchance it was on the golf course, on the boat, or during a walk in downtown Annapolis.
Whatever it may be, we need to make it a point to come to a visitation and/ or funeral with the intent of sharing that special moment with the family and how important that individual was to our life. This shared memory not only shows the family that we are there for them and truly care, but that their loved one made an impact on our life and we give much thanks for having the opportunity in knowing them.
“But hold on Ryan, what if I don’t know the deceased and only know one of the relatives?” This is very common.
For example, the one who has passed is the father of a friend at our place of work. In this case it is next to impossible to bring a story of the person who has passed, because we most likely have never met them nor any of their family members. When it comes time to walk up to see this dear friend, we are first greeted by the widow, then the siblings and so on. This often times creates an awkward feeling and ends up with us using the common phrase that the relatives have heard time and time again by nearly everyone ahead of us…“I’m sorry for your loss.”
Fortunately, this awkward feeling is being combated by conversational clues set up by progressive undertakers. If we are to take a look carefully around the room, we will find objects that the family has provided the undertaker to display. This becomes our “road map” for the conversation with the relatives we may have never met before.
Everything from golf clubs and doll houses, decoys and fishing rods to a Christmas tree and full size nutcrackers provide an opportunity to learn about the individual and ask the family to share stories about those items that are visual to us. “I see your husband enjoyed golf, what