Ad­vice: twice is just as nice

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Noth­ing is more im­por­tant to a bliss­ful mar­riage than find­ing a point of agree­ment. Ev­ery vet­eran hus­band knows if he wants to change his wife’s mind about any­thing, just agree with her. It is amaz­ing how this works. The tech­ni­cal name for this is “re-wife psy­chol­ogy.”

The Gra­cious Mis­tress of the Par­son­age and I have been mar­ried since 1971 and have not had a se­ri­ous ar­gu­ment or dis­agree­ment. (She does not al­low me to talk back.) We have had rough times, but not with each other.

We have sur­vived nine con­gre­ga­tions, 19 homes, three chil­dren with nine grand­chil­dren and all with­out com­pro­mis­ing our re­la­tion­ship. My san­ity is an­other is­sue.

Through­out our mar­riage, we have al­ways held to the ad­vice not to go to bed an­gry. Of course, there have been a few sleep­less nights. I have a sim­ple rule: do not close your eyes if there is an an­gry woman in the vicin­ity.

I hon­estly can say our mar­i­tal re­la­tion­ship through the years has been most am­i­ca­ble. Since our mar­riage, my wife and I spend a lot of time work­ing to­gether and we never seem to get bored with one an­other.

We are a great team. She puts up with me and I let her. It works won­der­fully and we have been able to ac­com­plish a good deal to­gether.

Only one area where we dis­agree and there may not be much of a rem­edy for this de­par­ture in com­pany.

Never fear. Our mar­i­tal dis­so­lu­tion is not near.

We have just learned to live with this dis­sent and, I might add, have sur­vived quite hap­pily.

I sup­pose no re­la­tion­ship is ab­so­lutely per­fect this side of the Pearly Gates. Not to boast, but I have my wife beat in this one area. I do not of­ten get the up­per hand with her; in fact, I can­not re­mem­ber any other oc­ca­sion where this has oc­curred.

Nev­er­the­less, we have come to a meet­ing of the minds on this sub­ject. Re­ally, if you don’t mind, the meet­ing doesn’t mat­ter.

Where my wife and I dis­agree con­cerns re­runs. She hates re­runs and I love them. If I en­joy a book or a movie or a tele­vi­sion pro­gram, I like see­ing it again and again. Not my wife. “There are too many things I haven’t seen yet,” she ar­gues, “to watch some­thing the se­cond time.”

Of course, there is some­thing to what she says. Nev­er­the­less, I still en­joy see­ing or read­ing some­thing I like the se­cond time or more.

Like a classic, some­thing you can en­joy over and over and it never loses its fas­ci­na­tion or charm. In fact, each new ex­po­sure re­veals some level you did not no­tice be­fore.

The rea­son they are clas­sics is the qual­ity about them that bears re­peat­ing. A good book, es­pe­cially the Good Book, all war­rants mul­ti­ple read­ings in my opin­ion. I must con­fess that some things I en­joy more the se­cond time around.

Around Thanks­giv­ing time, ev­ery­one seems to en­joy the tur­key the se­cond and third day just as well, if not more than the first day. In fact, you can tell a re­ally good meal by how many times you can re­heat it and en­joy it.

Thank God for microwave ovens. What did those Pil­grim moth­ers do with­out them?

My fa­vorite movie of all times is “Old Yeller.” Thanks to the in­ven­tion of video, I own my own copy of this classic and never tire of watch­ing it.

My wife, on the other hand, tires of me watch­ing it. There is noth­ing quite like curl­ing up in my fa­vorite chair with a soda and a mountain of pop­corn watch­ing “Old Yeller” on a win­ter’s eve.

If you have seen the movie, you know the clos­ing scene is the real tear­jerker. I do not want Old Yeller to die. Ever y time I watch, I cross my fin­gers and hope this might be the time Old Yeller makes it.

I do not like to be neg­a­tive. I want to be op­ti­mistic about things and put a pos­i­tive spin on ever ything. One day, I am sure, I will watch it and to my happy sur­prise, Old Yeller will make it.

I have seen it 973 times so far and it has not changed. Nev­er­the­less, you never know. Stranger things have hap­pened.

My ex­pe­ri­ence has taught me that the re­ally good things in life, only im­prove the more they are re­peated. The qual­ity of some things in­creases with age.

I know the older I get, the bet­ter I be­come. (I ab­so­lutely refuse to qual­ify that state­ment.)

Al­though the Bi­ble is more than a classic, it does bear much re­peat­ing. I have found that the more I read the Bi­ble the more I get out of it. A pas­sage that I have read 20 times be­fore be­comes new and fresh the next time I read it.

I can­not ex­plain this won­der­ful phe­nom­ena, but it has hap­pened to me many times.

King David un­der­stood this as no other per­son in the Bi­ble. In one pas­sage, he tes­ti­fies to the im­por­tance of God’s Word in his own life. “Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee” (Psalms 119:11).

The Apos­tle Paul said this about the Bi­ble, “All scrip­ture is given by in­spi­ra­tion of God, and is prof­itable for doc­trine, for re­proof, for cor­rec­tion, for in­struc­tion in right­eous­ness:” (2 Ti­mothy 3:16).

The Bi­ble is a marvelous book that bears re­peat­ing. The more I read it, the more I en­joy it.

Dr. James L. Sny­der is pas­tor of the Fam­ily of God Fel­low­ship, 1471 Pine Road, Ocala, FL 34472. He lives with the Gra­cious Mis­tress of the Par­son­age in Sil­ver Springs Shores. Call him at 352687-4240 or email jamess­ny­ The church web­site is www.whatafel­low­

CH­ESTER — Hannah Cir­cle at Kent Is­land United Methodist Church will hold a ShredIt com­mu­nity event from 9 a.m. to noon Satur­day, May 20, in the park­ing lot of the church on Cox Neck Road.

Bring your unwanted and out-dated pa­pers to be shred­ded safely by All-Shred Inc.

Do­na­tions will ben­e­fit chil­dren’s mis­sions projects.

For in­for­ma­tion, con­tact She­lia at 410-643-5361.

BURRISVILLE — Mt. Zion United Methodist Church will cel­e­brate Bay­nard and Blake Day on Sun­day, May 21, at 3:30 p.m. Robin­son AME Church Choir will be in con­cert. Repast will fol­low ser­vice. The Rev. Lisa M. Graine is pas­tor.

POND­TOWN — Boardly Chapel AME Church will hold a “Bring the Boys Home” ser­vice at 3:30 p.m. Sun­day, May 21. Guest speaker will be Pas­tor An­thony Reed of Hope.

All are wel­come. Call 410928-5677 for in­for­ma­tion.

The Rev. Ellsworth Tol­liver is pas­tor.

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