A chance to tell the story of a life
Imagine if you will… you enter a facility and are immediately greeted by a smiling face along with perhaps even a light joke about the weather outside. As you make your way further into the facility you can’t help but notice that your favorite summer vacation song is playing at a level easily heard. Before too long a margarita is offered to you and just outside arm’s reach is a table filled with fresh fruit, gourmet cheeses and homemade cookies that are filling the air with their delicious scents. You look around after receiving your glass of wine and notice that there are pictures displayed along with a video playing that includes photos of you and your friends while vacationing together in the Caribbean a few years back. Finally, as you approach your friends that are gathered in a circle talking about last summer, you are blasted by the loud burst of laughter as they obviously reached the final hilarious moment of the story they just shared.
Where do you think you are? A wedding reception? High school or college reunion? Perhaps even a birthday party for a good friend? Nope, you have just entered the modern day funeral home and experienced today’s version of funeral ser vice. Yes, you can say goodbye to the low lights and a lonely casket surrounded by flowers in a darkened room with friends and family huddled together whispering to one another while elevator music plays in the background.Today’s undertaker has taken on the challenge of telling the story of a life lived and has created a new means of saying goodbye. This modern day method of grief therapy has taken the funeral industry by storm.
The concept of telling the story of a life lived is nothing new. Families have been doing it on their own for years by arranging for receptions at local facilities after a funeral service.The funeral industry is finally catching up and providing families with a comforting ambiance with their friends and family to gather with one another and share the stories of the one they lost. We are finding in some areas of the US, undertakers are providing full service bars with acoustic bands to meals that encompass everything from a Starbucks® coffee station to gourmet appetizers.
Now what about those families that want to have the casual gathering but still want to incorporate the traditional aspects in a funeral ceremony? Fortunately, undertakers have found ways to incorporate both and have developed answers to this common dilemma. Progressive funeral homes now offer “Tribute Specialists.” These highly trained individuals take on the task of actually telling the story of the decedent and assist the family in highly personalizing what is being called a “Time of Shared Memories” that is typically held at the funeral home.
These “Tribute Specialists” take time to interview family members on what they remember most, what special stories they shared together and what they will miss the most about the one they love. Through this time together, songs are chosen, poems are gathered and family members become involved with this modern day form of saying goodbye.
What is amazing with this modern service is that people end up truly experiencing all levels of emotion, from laughing to crying; and therefore it becomes a form of therapy that perhaps normally would not have been there. Most importantly, it involves you! It tells the stories that you were a part of and what you will remember about the individual. After all, isn’t that what we want to hold on to after we lose a loved one – the happy times?
Yes, modern day undertakers are taking a whole new spin on funeral service. They are working with each and every family to provide them with a highly personalized, one of a kind, exclusive tribute to a life lived. Or as many have shared – progressive funeral service providers today are truly providing the option of putting “fun” into funeral.