‘Per­fect’ boyfriend van­ishes when he be­gins to con­sume al­co­holic drinks


Dear Abby: I have been dat­ing the most amaz­ing man for the past 11 months.

As we ap­proach the one-year an­niver­sary of the day we met, this “per­fect” man is show­ing some not-so-per­fect traits. I was un­lucky in love for many years un­til he swept me off my feet.

We have both be­come ex­tremely close with each other’s re­spec­tive friends and fam­ily.

He’s ev­ery­thing I have been search­ing for in a life part­ner and hus­band.

But when he drinks, he con­fides his deep fears of dat­ing me and enu­mer­ates each and ev­ery one of my re­la­tion­ship in­se­cu­ri­ties — nag­ging, anx­i­ety, lone­li­ness, etc.

The next day he acts like noth­ing hap­pened!

Dear Girl­friend: Your “amaz­ing” man ap­pears to be a loose-lipped lush.

Not know­ing him, I can’t guess the de­gree to which he blacks out when he’s been drink­ing.

Some al­co­holics don’t re­mem­ber what hap­pened the night be­fore. Oth­ers sim­ply don’t WANT to re­mem­ber, so they claim am­ne­sia.

Re­gard­less of how you feel about him, for your own well-be­ing, draw the line and tell him he needs to stop drink­ing.

If he’s as al­co­hol-de­pen­dent as I sus­pect he is, he will give you an ar­gu­ment or an out­right re­fusal.

And that’s your cue to tell him if he wants a fu­ture with you, he will have to make a choice.

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