Teacher weighs reaching out to a former student who is in prison
Dear Abby: Twelve years ago, I taught a boy I’ll call Brandon in my first-grade class. I was very fond of him, and we had a strong connection. I knew Brandon had a tough home life and did my best to provide him a safe place in my classroom. I stayed in contact with his aunt over the years on social media because she had been a co-worker of my mother’s, and we would occasionally discuss how Brandon was doing. As he grew older, he began to associate with a bad crowd. He got in more and more trouble at school and eventually dropped out. A few months later, he was sent to prison for a violent crime.
His aunt has asked me to send Brandon a letter because he had always thought so much of me as a man who has been convicted of violence being in contact with me. I am torn about what’s the right thing to do. I feel like I am abandoning Brandon like so many others in his life, but I also see my husband’s point. Abby, please help me to decide what to do. — Conflicted