Royal Oak Tribune

Mom makes case for including longtime girlfriend in family

- Dear Abby Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

DEAR ABBY » I have been married to my husband for 38 years. Our two children are adults now. Our older son has had the same girlfriend for 11 years, but my inlaws still won’t accept her because they aren’t married, so they don’t include her in some family functions. How can I let them know in a nice way that she is family to me? Even my husband doesn’t regard her as family.

I understand some people are that way, but I was raised by a mother who saw all of our friends and boyfriends and girlfriend­s as family, even after some were divorced. I feel like skipping these family functions if my children and their girlfriend­s aren’t included. What can I do?

— Inclusive in Oklahoma

DEAR INCLUSIVE » Your inlaws have a right to their opinions, and so do you. Listen to your heart. If it’s telling you that you would rather spend those times with your children and their girlfriend­s, go ahead and do it. I am assuming that the son who is involved in the longterm relationsh­ip would not be leaving his girlfriend home alone when these gatherings are held, because if that’s the case after 11 years, she should dump him.

DEAR ABBY » My sisters and I grew up in California. One of my sisters moved to Texas with her husband 29 years ago. Over the years I have had to listen to her put California down. On the occasions when she visits, she never fails to mention how crowded it is, how the air is terrible and how our government is a joke.

Recently, she asked to come here for a visit, and I agreed. The next day I got a text from her with an article attached about “Why California Sucks.” I am so irritated that I no longer want her to come next month. How do I handle this?

— Annoyed in California

DEAR ANNOYED » Are you telling me you have tolerated your sister’s jibes about our great state of California all this time without putting a stop to it? That woman has a lot of nerve! If she truly hates it here, why is she willing to come?

Although California may have its natural disasters, a large homeless population, unhealthfu­l air quality, scorching heat waves and the promise of even higher taxes to come — other states are not without their challenges. Yet folks still seem to want to emigrate to California in droves, judging by the traffic.

The time has come to draw the line. Tell your sister you don’t like her needling, and if she doesn’t cut it out, her invitation will be rescinded.

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