Royal Oak Tribune

Son with new girlfriend grows more distant

- Contact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.

DEAR ABBY » I’m a mom of three young adults, a daughter and two sons. The oldest recently married. My youngest is finishing his last two years of college out of state. Three months ago, he met a young lady.

I have tried constantly to be close with all my children, but the youngest has always kept me at bay. He expresses how different we are. Now that he has met this young lady, I think he’s trying to push me further away and continue on with her and her mom.

It makes me sad because no matter how hard I try to be a good mother and be present, it doesn’t work. What do you suggest?

— Sad Mom in

Mississipp­i

DEAR MOM » Your son is pursuing not only this young lady, but also his independen­ce, which is normal for someone his age, and he may need to separate from you for a while. Back off for now and allow him some space. Whether this college romance will pan out is anyone’s guess, so calm down.

If possible, concentrat­e on things other than your empty nest. However, if you are unable to do that, ask your physician or your insurance company to refer you to a licensed psychother­apist to help you get through this.

What teens need to know about sex, drugs, AIDS and getting along with peers and parents is in “What Every Teen Should Know.” Send your name and mailing address, plus check or money order for $8 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby, Teen Booklet, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 610540447. (Shipping and handling are included in the price.)

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