He’s get­ting a funny feel­ing about wife’s new bar buddy

By Jeanne Phillips

San Francisco Chronicle - - DATEBOOK - Write to Dear Abby at P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069 or www.dearabby.com.

Dear Abby:

I’ve had a feel­ing my wife is about to leave me for an­other man. For the last few months he has been com­ing to the bar where she works and say­ing stuff to her. He has also been tex­ting her and post­ing things on her Face­book page. She told me he’s only a friend, but since he has been com­ing around at her work, she’s been re­ally cold to me at night. We don’t have sex like we used to, and she doesn’t let me hold her when we are in bed. What should I do? She told me I need to get help be­cause I’m jeal­ous of him. Jeal­ous in Ore­gon

Dear Jeal­ous:

I think “help” would be a good idea. Tell your wife you’re will­ing to get some on the con­di­tion that she come with you. It’s called mar­riage coun­sel­ing, and clearly you both are in need of some. Your doc­tor can re­fer you to a li­censed ther­a­pist. If your wife re­fuses, go with­out her. Please don’t wait.

Dear Abby:

I’m a 15-year-old sopho­more. Peo­ple in my class share their opin­ions and act dis­gusted when a slightly older man and a younger woman are to­gether, or vice versa. I get of­fended when my class­mates make these com­ments be­cause my mom is 39 and my step­fa­ther is 27. They love each other very much, and I don’t think age should in­ter­fere. Am I over­sen­si­tive be­cause I’m of­fended by these com­ments? Age Is Just a Num­ber

Dear Age:

Be­com­ing of­fended solves noth­ing, un­less the com­ments are made specif­i­cally about your mom and step­dad. It’s my ob­ser­va­tion that peo­ple with lit­tle life ex­pe­ri­ence tend to be judg­men­tal about things they know noth­ing about, and 15-year-olds are no ex­cep­tion. Per­haps when your class­mates are older, they’ll re­al­ize that peo­ple don’t fall in love “by the num­bers” and that it’s a mis­take to gen­er­al­ize.

Dear Abby:

When I was grow­ing up, I was told to re­move my shoes when vis­it­ing an­other per­son’s house. Now that I’m an adult and build­ing a new house, I would like to ask peo­ple to re­move their shoes upon en­ter­ing my home. I have young chil­dren, and ex­pect I’d like to keep the floors clean and main­tain their good con­di­tion. Would it be tacky or rude to ask this of vis­i­tors? Shoeless in St. Louis

Dear Shoeless:

I don’t think so, but some peo­ple may. In Ja­pan, re­mov­ing one’s shoes be­fore en­ter­ing a dwelling is cus­tom­ary. The soles of shoes are cov­ered with germs, and if small chil­dren crawl around on your floors, it’s not too much to ask. Be sure to warn prospec­tive guests in ad­vance so they can bring their own slip­pers, or keep a sup­ply of them by your front door.

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