A READER ASKS
“Dear Lord, I’m still traumatized and confused by an experience I had a week ago: I went out with friends for a night of fun that turned out to be anything but. At first I was flattered when a good-looking guy came over and talked to me since I’m usually the last one in our group of single friends to get male attention. But at the end of a great evening, I let him walk me to my car and he pushed me against it and started kissing and touching me. I managed to get away and run back into the club. My friends were so outraged that they wanted to call the police. As shaken and angry as I was, I wouldn’t let them because I felt that I participated in letting what happened happen. I felt so good to be ‘chosen’ for once that I let go of my better judgment. Now I feel dirty…as though my own vanity brought on this ugly violation. Please help!”
—Paul in a letter to the Romans, 8:1–2
Wisdom of the Word
There is therefore now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For the law of the Spirit of life has set you free in Christ Jesus from the law of sin and death. We understand and yet…
We want to trust in the goodness of others, but sometimes that trust turns out to be misplaced. When they violate us physically or emotionally, our hurt and anger can quickly turn into self-blame. We should have been wiser and more wary. How do we stop beating ourselves up over this?