A READER ASKS
“Dear Lord, my daughter’s wedding is coming up in three weeks and I’m beside myself with sorrow: It feels as if she’s already chosen her fiancé’s family over me. Though I knew I’d have to share her with her husband, I didn’t expect to take a backseat to his parents. But she’s included them in every detail of the wedding and reception, and it’s not because she’s being polite. She actually followed her future mother-in-law’s advice to buy a new wedding gown, and rejected the one I’d lovingly stored away for her for years. I’ve tried bringing up how pushed aside I’m feeling, and she’s assured me she still loves me and that I have nothing to worry about. But all I do is worry as she moves further and further away from me. I’m afraid I’m going to lose her entirely. Please help me move past this feeling of despair!”
Wisdom of the Word
There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.
—John in his first letter to the Early Church, 4:18
We understand and yet…
When those we hold most precious share their love with others, we can feel cast aside. How do we escape the sinking feeling that children and friends who form new relationships will abandon the loving relationships we formed with them first?