A READER ASKS
“Dear Lord, I’m single and my friends have been pushing me to ‘get back in circulation’ for over a year now, but my most recent heartbreak has left me too scarred and scared. I’ve turned out to be wrong about Mr. Right time and again. And my latest mistake was the worst: I fell headover-heels for a guy and trusted him wholeheartedly— until his wife tracked me down and showed me pictures of their children! It’s been over a year since that mortifying experience, and I still feel so awful about it that I won’t let a man get anywhere near me. In fact, my girlfriends have dubbed me the ‘Ice Queen’ because of the way I freeze out anyone of the opposite sex. My palace is such an achingly lonely place, but as much as I want to step out of it, I’m too afraid. How do I put my heart on the line knowing it could get crushed again?”
Wisdom of the Word
Therefore do not throw away your confidence, which has a great reward. For you have need of endurance, so that when you have done the will of God you may receive what is promised.
—Paul (likely) in an open letter, Hebrews 10:35–36
We understand and yet…
When extending our hearts to another results in rejection or betrayal, we want to withdraw so we won’t get hurt again. To reach out to someone new, whether emotionally or spiritually, seems like courting another painful disaster. How do we find the courage to take such a risk?