A READER ASKS
“Dear Lord, as a child I was a straight-A student, and I strive to get the same grades to this day: If I make a minor mistake at work, I want so badly to avoid another that
I’ll spend the next week rewriting emails so they’re perfect and staying late to comb through projects for hidden errors. At home, my house is never clean enough, and when my kids beg for pizza I feel guilty for not serving them a ‘balanced’ meal. Most of the time I can hide the pressure I’m putting on myself, but things came to a head last weekend: I spilled a drink on my friends’ carpet, and got so upset when I couldn’t get the stain out that I had to leave. I actually sent her flowers the next day, and she called and laughingly said I needed to ‘cut myself some slack.’ But to me that translated into ‘Yep, another mark I can’t meet.’ What’s wrong with me and how do I fix it?”
Wisdom of the Word
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of light (for the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness, righteousness, and truth), finding out what is acceptable to the Lord.
—Paul in a letter to the Ephesians, 5:8–10 NKJV
We understand and yet…
We know You don’t expect us to be perfect, so why is it that we expect perfection of ourselves? We set the bar for our personal performance impossibly high, then beat ourselves up for falling short. What’s the cure?