Dealing with grief from an unexpected, accidental death
Accidental death from auto accidents, fires, drugs and murders are just a few of the unexpected ways people die every day. It is the element of the unexpected that makes these types of deaths difficult for friends and family.
Police may be involved. An autopsy may be required by law and in extreme cases, a family member, friend or acquaintance may be suspected of committing foul play.
There may also be complicated legal issues. Survivors often feel incredibly guilty that they didn’t do enough to prevent the tragedy.
Due to the nature of accidental death, the survivors may be overwhelmed. Initial offers of help may not be accepted since they may not know where to start or what steps to take.
It is also important to remember that many people may be willing to help after the death. Once the service has taken place and
Your support is valued, but don’t try to take control of the situation. Loved ones need to retain control to help them work through grief. Avoid pressuring the family to clean out the deceased’s belongings since they need to do this in their own time.
Suggesting drugs, drinking, the “wrong crowd” or other factors caused the death will not help the loved one with their grief.