Deal­ing with grief from an un­ex­pected, ac­ci­den­tal death

South Florida Times - - OBITUARIES - Courtesy of Funer­al­ day-to-day ac­tiv­i­ties re­sume, help may be needed more than ever. Re­main avail­able and will­ing to help. Ac­ci­den­tal Death:What NOT to do … • Don’t van­ish: Be avail­able, lov­ing, and non­judg­men­tal. Don’t sug­gest what you would do o

Ac­ci­den­tal death from auto ac­ci­dents, fires, drugs and mur­ders are just a few of the un­ex­pected ways peo­ple die ev­ery day. It is the el­e­ment of the un­ex­pected that makes these types of deaths dif­fi­cult for friends and fam­ily.

Po­lice may be in­volved. An au­topsy may be re­quired by law and in ex­treme cases, a fam­ily mem­ber, friend or ac­quain­tance may be sus­pected of com­mit­ting foul play.

There may also be com­pli­cated le­gal is­sues. Sur­vivors of­ten feel in­cred­i­bly guilty that they didn’t do enough to pre­vent the tragedy.

Due to the na­ture of ac­ci­den­tal death, the sur­vivors may be over­whelmed. Ini­tial of­fers of help may not be ac­cepted since they may not know where to start or what steps to take.

It is also im­por­tant to re­mem­ber that many peo­ple may be will­ing to help after the death. Once the ser­vice has taken place and

Your sup­port is val­ued, but don’t try to take con­trol of the sit­u­a­tion. Loved ones need to re­tain con­trol to help them work through grief. Avoid pres­sur­ing the fam­ily to clean out the deceased’s be­long­ings since they need to do this in their own time.

Sug­gest­ing drugs, drink­ing, the “wrong crowd” or other fac­tors caused the death will not help the loved one with their grief.

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