The impossible expectations we sometimes place on pastors’ wives
The pastor’s wife in many churches carries heavy burdens. Sometimes they are impossible expectations.
To be fair, this could refer to any church staff person, male or female, so it could be called ministers’ spouses. For simplicity, and because I primarily hear from this group of people, I refer to them as pastors’ wives.
So what are some of these unfair expectations? Here are the top 10 expectations imposed upon these ladies.
In other words, they should know everything their pastor/husband knows. So her church has several members who are lacking in emotional intelligence.
One wife shared with us that she received eleven messages to give to her husband after a specific worship service.
Some are expected to lead music or play piano. Others are expected to act in a specific ministry employee role such as student or children’s director.
One wife explained that she and her husband were new to a church when a church member confronted them about their misbehaving children. Their outlandish sin was running in the church after a worship service.