Classmate should evaluate why she’s friends with bully
I am writing because I witness a lot of bullying at school.
One of the bullies is a friend of mine and I’ve asked her to stop, but she doesn’t listen. How I can get through to her so she understands that she’s hurting someone’s feelings? She treats people as if they don’t have feelings and aren’t human. If you can’t answer this letter, I’ll understand, but if you find the time, I would greatly appreciate it.
People bully others for a variety of reasons. Among them, because they are angry and enjoy taking it out on others; because it gives them a sense of power; or simply because they enjoy it.
Not knowing your “friend,” I can’t guess what’s driving her behavior. I suggest that you ask her what her reason is and after you hear her answer, you re-evaluate whether to distance yourself from her because, with bullies, the target can change and no one is safe.
A couple of months ago, my husband and I received a very nice “save the date” for a wedding in August in a town nearby. There were many nice photos of the engaged couple on the card. The problem is, we have no idea who they are.
While this was clearly addressed to us, my fear is that it was intended for someone else who may not be “saving the date” and it may cause some tension within their family. What would be proper when the invitation arrives? Do I check “will not attend” and send it back, or should I include a note with an explanation?
You are a nice person. A simple “regret that we cannot attend” should be sufficient and by all means include the note.
We set limits on our son’s screen time at home. My mother-in-law lets him have quite a bit more screen time when he visits her. My husband thinks grandparents should have the right to determine everything about how they treat and care for their grandchildren. What do you think?
I think grandparents should respect the rules that parents set for their children because there are usually good reasons for them.
I also think that it is disrespectful for your in-laws to ignore your wishes, and your husband should consider that before concluding that his parents have the right to ignore them.
— Not a Bully in Indiana Dear Not a Bully: — Save the Date in Wisconsin Dear Save the Date: — Mother in Boulder, Colo. Dear Mother: