Mother needs to realize wedding isn’t her show
your fiance should do. However, if you do decide to go through with the wedding, the two of you should agree there will be no further discussion about weight — hers or yours.
Dear Abby: I came into work on a recent Monday morning to the news that one of my co-workers had passed away the day before from a massive heart attack. I was shocked and saddened. I was also appalled that my employer posted her death on Facebook less than 24 hours later.
I don’t think it was my employer’s responsibility to notify the world. Are there any rules of etiquette regarding this?
Dear Sad News: It is the prerogative of family members to post this kind of news. Ideally, your employer should have waited an extra day or two to allow the family to get the word out. However, unless a family member complained to you about your employer’s actions, you shouldn’t be so quick to judge.
That he/she shared it on social media isn’t surprising these days, nor was it a breach of etiquette.
Dear Abby: I have been with my boyfriend nearly 19 years, and we both agree that we don’t want marriage. Now, I just found out that for the past nine months, he has been seeing someone else over lunch. He says he loves me, but he loves her, too.
He is willing to stop the affair, but he won’t stop texting and seeing her “as a friend.”
Should I trust what he is telling me?
Dear Silent: Should you trust that he won’t resume the affair with his “friend” — or that he has stopped it? I don’t think so. You must decide whether you want to be part of a “threesome,” and for that, you have my sympathy.