Chatty co-worker dis­rupts of­fice

The Commercial Appeal - - Sports -

I have a co-worker who, for many rea­sons, drives me up the wall. “Lana” is older than I am by at least 35 years and sits across from me at work.

This would be fine, ex­cept she will not stop talk­ing. No mat­ter how lit­tle in­ter­est I show or how many times I say “You told me this be­fore,” she will nat­ter on and on and on.

She talks about ev­ery­thing and any­thing — her pets, her friends, her friends’ mar­i­tal/fi­nan­cial/ health prob­lems, what she had for dinner, “funny” things she’s found on Face­book. Even if I have head­phones on or am clearly not lis­ten­ing, she’ll keep talk­ing. It’s in­fu­ri­at­ing and very dis­tract­ing for all of us in the of­fice.

To add to this, she has a se­ri­ous case of one-up­man­ship syn­drome. No mat­ter who in the of­fice is hav­ing a con­ver­sa­tion — we have an open floor plan — she has to butt in with her own un­so­licited opin­ion and make it about her.

It’s got­ten to the point where I can’t have a sin­gle con­ver­sa­tion at the of­fice with any of my other co­work­ers with­out her in­ter­rupt­ing and tak­ing over the con­ver­sa­tion.

For ex­am­ple, a younger co-worker and I were dis­cussing hous­ing in our town. (We both rent.) She barged into our con­ver­sa­tion with her own hor­ri­ble land­lord ex­pe­ri­ences, though we hadn’t asked her opin­ion or ad­vice.

Her ex­pe­ri­ences were also 30 years out of date and thus not even rel­e­vant. How do I po­litely tell her to shut up and mind her own business?

I have a feel­ing you’ll have a hard time po­litely telling her any­thing, be­cause your fuse is about a cen­time­ter long at the mo­ment. Talk to hu­man re­sources in­stead. This prob­lem af­fects the whole of­fice, not just you, so it should be of con­cern to man­age­ment.

My brother, ex­ecu­tor of my fa­ther’s will, and I had a fall­ing out a few years back. To pun­ish me, he took $3,000 from my in­her­i­tance, claim­ing it was for an al­leged loan I took from my fa­ther. He has no proof of this, nor did it ever hap­pen. And he did not deduct the ex­penses of ma­jor pur­chases Dad made for my sis­ters, which were com­mon knowl­edge among the fam­ily.

Do I have any le­gal re­course? Or should I just let it go and write him out of my life for good?

It’s un­for­tu­nate that es­tate set­tle­ment winds up tear­ing so many fam­i­lies apart when the most im­por­tant thing par­ents hope to leave their chil­dren is not a thing at all; it’s a legacy of love and kind­ness.

I’m sorry to hear what your brother did to you. Though it’s hard to say with­out the de­tails, it sounds as if there’s a very good chance you have le­gal re­course. Con­tact an at­tor­ney to ex­plore your op­tions.

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