Hands-on approach to other women disturbs man’s wife
DEAR ABBY: My husband cannot be around a female without putting his hands on her shoulder or back. He “has” to touch. I’m not jealous, but embarrassed when I see women cringe and the expression on their faces sometimes.
I keep hoping one of them will confront him about it. It’s getting worse the older he gets, especially with younger women.
Do not suggest talking to him. He is never wrong and becomes livid when confronted.
He reads your column, so please, Abby, give me some advice. -- TIRED OF BEING EMBARRASSED
DEAR TIRED: I assume your husband does this only with unaccompanied young females, because if he did it with women who had an escort, their date or their husband would straighten him out. Because you can see the women are uncomfortable, talk privately with them and suggest they speak up and tell him not to do it again.
DEAR ABBY: I recently attended a wedding after which the bride chose not to adopt her husband’s last name. After the wedding we met them for dinner. When they strolled up to the restaurant to meet us, I happily exclaimed, “Oh, here come Mr. and Mrs. Smith!” after which I was quickly informed that I was wrong because the bride was keeping her maiden name.
Abby, even if a woman goes by her maiden name, is it so wrong to refer to her as “the Mrs.”? -- STEPPED IN IT
DEAR STEPPED: Your mistake was an innocent one. Now that you know this couple is sensitive about their individual identities, address them by their names (“Linda” and “Robert”) if you wish to maintain a social relationship.
DEAR ABBY: A colleague of mine was let go a few days ago and it shocked us all. I imagine it was even more shocking to her. She seemed to have a good deal of responsibility outside of her normal role, and from what we saw, she was excellent at her job.
We weren’t close friends outside of work, but we would text each other now and again and I consider her someone I would like to keep in touch with. Would it be inappropriate to text her and offer my condolences? -- ETIQUETTE ADVICE IN CALIFORNIA
DEAR ETIQUETTE: You are entitled to a personal life outside the office. I don’t think it would be inappropriate to reach out to her on your own time. As long as you don’t discuss it at work, it is your business and no one else’s. ••• To contact Abby visit DearAbby.com