Neigh­bor’s smok­ing snuffs out kids’ play dates

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Ques­tion: My 10-yearold son Barry made friends with a new boy next door named Billy. Billy in­vited Barry over to play, and I agreed af­ter call­ing Billy’s mother to con­firm. I’ve met her a couple of times when I was tak­ing a walk. It was a rainy day and the kids stayed in­side all day watch­ing movies.

When Barry came home, he reeked of cig­a­rette smoke. He told me that Billy’s mother smokes in the house and doesn’t open the win­dows. Billy in­vited Barry over the next day, and I said no. I called Billy’s mother and told her tact­fully that I said no be­cause of the smoke.

She be­came de­fen­sive say­ing she doesn’t smoke around her son (ob­vi­ously not true), has no idea why “peo­ple to­day are so ridicu­lous about smok­ing” and that she’d air out the house be­fore Barry came back if that would “make you happy.” I sug­gested Billy come to our house. She re­fused, say­ing she’d rather have Billy where she can keep an eye on him. Barry really likes Billy, and I’m not sure what to do.

An­swer: No child — or adult for that mat­ter — should be ex­posed to sec­ond­hand smoke. I feel bad for Billy or any child stuck in his sit­u­a­tion. All you can do is ex­plain to Barry that for health rea­sons, you don’t want him go­ing into Billy’s house. Be sure he knows it’s noth­ing against the child, that Billy is wel­come in your house, and for now he should stick to play­ing with Billy out­side. Kids are good at work­ing things out. I bet th­ese two will, too.

Gwen Car­den

Happy Home

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