Diamond ring drama
DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend and I love each other very much and have been living together with our children for five years. We intend to get married soon. Here is the rub: She believes she should receive a diamond ring as part of the proposal.
I would marry her tomorrow, but I don’t believe in spending thousands of dollars. I understand that somehow she equates her value/social status with the size of her wedding ring, but I don’t agree.
She has offered to chip in and even buy one from a used wedding site, but I’d rather spend that money on something more practical that she can enjoy. I can find the money to buy the ring, but I don’t see the value.
What do I do? Cave in and give her what she wants because I love her? Or push for a compromise?
– Hung Up On The Ring In
DEAR HUNG UP: Give her the ring. It will be cheaper in the long run. Trust me on that.
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at www.dearabby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.