people who have experienced the loss to teach the helpers how to help. I call this the burden of the bereaved,” said Drexler. “It’s an interesting position to be in but I encourage all of you to take on this task; to tell people what you need, what helps you … You know that grief never ends, that it’s always with you but others do not, and not surprisingly, they will look to you to tell them what is helpful and what is not.”
Following Drexler’s address, Lisa Varelli and Linda Sposato addressed the room with readings. Readings focused on the loss of loved ones and put a fine point on what it means for families dealing with tremendous loss.
“What I know to be true or right or fair about the Lisa Varelli and Linda Sposato embrace after sharing readings at a ceremony honoring the victims of drunk driving. Both women shared their experiences with grief after losing a child at the hands of a drunk driver. world has been challenged so I’m finding a way, my way, moment to moment in this new place,” read Varelli. “There are so many things about the world which I now struggle to understand. Why do children die? There are so many questions, I’ve learned, that are simply unanswerable.”
The West Chester University a cappella group, Under A Rest performed “Hear You Me” following readings.
Families then had the opportunity to place a candle on the table set at the front of the room and say a few words about the person they were there to remember. While many chose to share happy stories about their loved ones, others chose to place a candle and simply tell the room who they were there to honor.
The Mission of Mothers Against Drunk Driving, which began in 1980, is to end drunk driving, help fight drugged driving, support victims of such crimes and prevent underage drinking, according to the organization’s website. To learn more about Mothers Against Drunk Driving visit www.madd.org.
Linda Sposato reads a poem to the room during a ceremony held by Mothers Against Drunk Driving. Sposato later shared a happy story about her daughter, Bernadette, who she lost 18 years ago.