It’s NOT about you!

The Times (Northeast Benton County) - - OPINION - Ed­i­tor

It’s not about you. When the check­out clerk at the store is rude and frown­ing, it’s not about you.

When the driver on the high­way cuts you off at the exit ramp, it’s not about you.

When your child throws a tem­per tantrum, it’s not about you.

When the ath­letic team you’re on has to run laps, it’s not about you.

You are not the cen­ter of the uni­verse nor the world.

For a new­born child, the cen­ter of their world is them­selves and their care­giver.

For a 2-year-old, the cen­ter of their world is them­selves.

As we ma­ture, we should let go of that nar­cis­sis­tic fo­cus and see be­yond our­selves, in­creas­ing our em­pa­thy and al­low­ing the tri­als and tribu­la­tions of our life to fill our reper­toire of ex­pe­ri­ences for which we can share con­so­la­tion to oth­ers.

But, when you are still the cen­ter of your world as an adult, you will con­stantly be frus­trated.

When some­one is cross, rude, con­de­scend­ing, try to see their tri­als, their pain, their frus­tra­tion and smile at them, try to bless them, pray for them and re­al­ize it may be that they’ve had a par­tic­u­larly bad day and are com­pletely self-ab­sorbed with their grief that has mor­phed into anger at the world.

Ed­i­tor’s note: Annette Beard is the man­ag­ing ed­i­tor of The Times of North­east Ben­ton County. The opin­ions ex­pressed are those of the au­thor. She can be reached at

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