I got married to a wonder ful guy 14 years ago, but after a year of marriage, our children (his 10-year-old and my 12- and 13-year-olds) couldn’t stand one another and caused a lot of problems. I was brokenhear ted when he gave me divorce papers. I moved out but continued to date him without our kids around.
Seven years ago, after his son moved out, I moved back in, but he won’t ask me to remarry him. My kids get along fine with him, but his son hates me and refuses to come to any holiday or bir thday celebration that I host.
Should I move out and move on? — Hopeless in Ohio
Dear Hopeless: That this man has allowed his son to dictate how the two of you will spend your lives is ver y sad. Unless you can accept living with the status quo (which has to be painful), the answer to your question is: Move on.
Dear Abby: in 2014, I loaned a family friend $5,000. At the time, and ever since, I never asked the reason for the loan. Over time we lost touch. However, we recently reconnected and decided to go on a road/ camping trip throughout the West.
Three days in, we both realized it was a poor idea to travel together for an extended period of time. He has now become quite nasty and speaks ill of me. Should I write and request payment of the loan or let it go? — Out of Pocket in Vegas
Dear Out of Pocket: If you had the forethought to put IN WRITING the fact you were lending this person money, you have a prayer of having the loan repaid. If you didn’t, you can tr y writing to this family (former) friend, but legally it won’t be wor th the paper your letter is written on. If that’s the case, consider this an expensive lesson.
Dear Abby: I have a ver y good friend I’ve known for 18 years. Without fail, ever y time we’re on the phone and she gets another call, she’ll say, “Oh, let me call you right back,” but she never does.
We could be in the middle of a conversation but she doesn’t call back.
Is she a true friend? What should I say or do? — Not Finished in the East
Dear Not Finished:
Yrather than wait endlessly, call HER back the same day. And when you do, tell her exactly how her lack of concern for your feelings has made you feel.
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