Dating coach’s tips on meeting people
Looking for for love in 2011? Washington area dating coach AmySchoenchattedwithOnLove:
Alexandria: I’d love to jumpstartmydating life but I’mnot sure where to attach the cables.
Amy Schoen: Yes, starting to date can be overwhelming. WhenI workwithmy clients, westart with a values clarification so we get a sense of what is truly important to them. Think about what’s fulfilling for you. Then we think about where you can meet people who share your values. I had a client who was into community service and met her husband through a singles volunteering group. I also believe that online dating is a good way to meet people. So find a site that feels comfortable for you.
Baltimore: I recently graduated from college and have a hard time transitioning from the easy way to meet people — in class or in a college bar. Can you help?
Amy Schoen: It’s hard to leave the cozy social world of college. Going to bars may not be the best way unless it’s a neighborhood bar that attracts 20-somethings. I recommend checking out Meetup. and find groups that cater to your age bracket and interests. Perhaps your church or synagogue has a young professionals group for you to explore. Try joining a couple of Facebook groups.
Washington: I recently started meeting people through an online dating service. Meeting someone for coffee isabittoo“takeitor leave it” (after all, wehaveprobablybeen e-mailing for two weeks or more). Dinner seems like a big commitment to some, and there isn’t good conversation with a movie. . . .
Amy Schoen: Personally, I always liked . . . going to a museum andcoffee at the cafeteria or taking a walk along the C&O Canal or the Mall. You can go ice skating at the Sculpture Garden and get hot chocolate. I think it’s less pressure.