Father tells biological son he’ll be favored in will
Dear Amy: My elderly father confided to me that I would inherit significantly more of his estate than will my two stepbrothers and their families.
I am his only biological son. I am certain that his decision will engender sadness in my stepbrothers. I am likely to be questioned about my father’s actions.
How should I respond to their queries? Do I have an obligation to “even things out” under the circumstances? — Sorry Son
Some parents differentiate between biological children and stepchildren, and while you might understand the logic, it is unfortunate.
Depending on the length of the marriage, your father could have been in his stepsons’ lives for almost the entirety of their childhoods. Stepchildren feel they are family and are treated as family — until it is time to read the will.
All you can do is explain that this was your father’s wish and acknowledge their sadness. You do not have an obligation to “even things out,” though it would be generous of you to do so. Your making things right would not likely repair your siblings’ estimation of your father, though they would think well of you.
Dear Amy: Regarding the letter from “Perplexed in Maryland,” which raised the issue of courtesy among employers looking to hire, I could not agree more that as a society we have not only become cowards, as you state, but also complacent human beings who have forgotten the importance of proper etiquette.
Furthermore, I do not agree with the comment that businesses do not have incentive to keep in touch with nonhired applicants. If someone takes the time to interview with a company, he/she deserves common courtesy with an acknowledgment. If a company representative states that he/she will follow up the next week and does not, it becomes an integrity issue. Prospective employers “ lead by example.”— No Excuses in Gadsden, Ala.
Dear Amy: In response to “Wondering’s” query about resolutions for a new year, I offer my own tradition. I never make a resolution that covers the entire year. Instead, every month I pick a new habit that I want to acquire. These are usually small things like recycling the paper as soon as I am done with it. I make sure to perform the task every day for the entire month. — Habit Conscious in Buffalo
I absolutely love this idea and resolve to adopt it for myself. Thank you!
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