Prized playwright gets little applause at home
DEAR ABBY: I am an amateur playwright. Our local theater sponsors an annual playwriting contest. The prize isn’t monetary, but something far more important to an author — a fullscale production of the play.
I have won this prize four times — more than any other writer in the history of the contest. But is my family impressed? Not at all! My wife told me she thinks I write everything the same way and simply have repeated myself four times. Her put-downs are deeply hurtful.
I am up in years. It’s unlikely I will ever again win this prize. So how do I respond to such indifference? What do you do when you feel you have accomplished something important and the response is, “So, what else is new?” — LOOKING FOR VALIDATION IN FLORIDA
DEAR LOOKING FOR VALIDATION: My hat’s off to you. That you have won this prize more than any other writer in the history of the contest is a notable achievement, and one that’s not likely to be matched for a long time — if ever. Attend the production, take your well-earned bow in the spotlight, and accept that the less you look to your wife for validation, the happier your life will be.
DEAR ABBY: About a year ago, my fiancee, “Jayne,” reconnected with a childhood friend through Facebook.
“Christine” is gay, unattached and very attractive. She has a great personality, and everyone who meets her seems to be attracted to her. Jayne and Christine have had overnighters together. I have asked my fiancee if Christine has ever made advances toward her and she said no. I want to believe her, but part of me is wary.
They are now planning to go on a trip for a few days to an island.
Believe it or not, gay people are capable of platonic friendships with members of the same sex, just as straight people can have platonic relationships with people of the opposite sex. The bottom-line question is, do you trust your fiancee? If the answer is, you’re not sure, then you should rethink the engagement.