Daugh­ter-in-law’s vis­its leave trail of petty theft

The Washington Times Daily - - LIFE - ABI­GAIL VAN BUREN ● Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069. AN­DREWS MCMEEL SYN­DI­CA­TION

DEAR ABBY: I can’t talk to any­one about this (in­clud­ing my hus­band) be­cause they’ll think some­thing’s wrong with me or I am mak­ing it up.

When my son and his wife come to visit or we visit them, there’s al­ways some­thing miss­ing from my house or from my suit­case (when we visit them). When they visit, it’s al­ways small items like a china teacup, a nut bowl or a fig­urine. After we re­turn from a visit, there’s al­ways a piece of cos­tume jew­elry or an item of cloth­ing miss­ing from my suit­case.

The items are al­ways in­ex­pen­sive. I never see these in their house, so I sus­pect she just takes them and throws them out. I don’t know what to do aside from con­fronting her, which will prob­a­bly cause a rift with my son. I’ve men­tioned it to my hus­band and he re­fuses to be­lieve me! Is there some­thing wrong with her? Please help. I don’t know how to han­dle this. — GO­ING NUTS IN SOUTH CAROLINA

DEAR GO­ING NUTS: See­ing is be­liev­ing. Be­fore your son and daugh­terin-law’s next visit, con­sider set­ting up one or more se­cu­rity cam­eras around your home. If what you sus­pect proves to be true, your daugh­ter-in-law may suf­fer from emo­tional prob­lems that need to be ad­dressed. And when you visit them, make sure to lock your be­long­ings in your suit­case. If noth­ing else, that may give you peace of mind.

DEAR ABBY: I am re­cently sep­a­rated. I just started see­ing a guy who was also re­cently sep­a­rated and who will soon be di­vorced. The prob­lem is, he is my friend “Melissa’s” soon-to-be ex. They are break­ing up be­cause she cheated on him and left him for the other per­son.

He’s a great guy, and it’s too soon to tell if this could turn into an ac­tual re­la­tion­ship. Melissa isn’t a best friend of mine, but she’s more than just an ac­quain­tance. Should I pur­sue this or stop now? — CON­FUSED IN BROOK­LYN

DEAR CON­FUSED: When it comes to re­bound ro­mances, I ad­vise to pro­ceed with cau­tion, so you don’t get hurt. If you like this man, be a sup­port­ive friend to him for now. If the re­la­tion­ship de­vel­ops into some­thing more se­ri­ous from there, so be it. You didn’t cause the di­vorce, Melissa did, and you shouldn’t be blamed.

DEAR ABBY: When restau­rant hosts/hostesses de­cide where to seat pa­trons, I wish they would con­sider their mo­bil­ity. Many times I have ac­com­pa­nied mo­bil­ity-im­paired fam­ily mem­bers and friends, and the host didn’t con­sider the dis­tance to the table. I un­der­stand that restau­rant hosts try to bal­ance the num­ber of ta­bles for the wait staff, but surely they can also con­sider the oc­ca­sional pa­tron who would greatly ap­pre­ci­ate a shorter walk to their table. — MO­BIL­ITY-IM­PAIRED PA­TRON

DEAR PA­TRON: Restau­rant hosts are not dic­ta­tors, nor are they mind read­ers. If you or some­one you are with has a dis­abil­ity that must be ac­com­mo­dated, in­form the host and re­quest a table that suits your needs. If the es­tab­lish­ment val­ues your pa­tron­age, the em­ploy­ees will be happy to com­ply.

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