Hus­band doesn’t share wife’s dreams of see­ing the world

The Washington Times Daily - - LIFE - ABI­GAIL VAN BUREN Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069. AN­DREWS MCMEEL SYN­DI­CA­TION

DEAR ABBY: I’ll be re­tir­ing next year. My hus­band is al­ready re­tired. When I do, I want to travel in the U.S. and in­ter­na­tion­ally. We are healthy, able to travel and we have the funds to do it.

The prob­lem is, my hus­band isn’t crazy about trav­el­ing. He’ll go if I book it, but he fusses the whole time un­til we go. It’s not like he has to do any­thing. I do all the book­ing and pack­ing. All he has to do is show up.

I told him one of my bucket list items was to live in Mex­ico for a month. Be­cause I hate cold weather, I want to live some­where warm.

Can you give me some ad­vice on this mat­ter? Help me change his mind about see­ing the world be­fore we are no longer able to. Or do you think I need to find a travel com­pan­ion? — BUCKET LIST IN VIR­GINIA

DEAR B.L.: You may need to do ex­actly that, and the way to change your hus­band’s mind about travel might be to say it. Not ev­ery­one has wan­der­lust. If he’s a con­firmed home­body who re­gards travel as a pun­ish­ment in­stead of a priv­i­lege, you should not have to suf­fer for it.

DEAR ABBY: My doc­tor pre­scribed med­i­ca­tion to con­trol my mi­graines, but I have to take the pills four times a day — at break­fast, lunch, din­ner and bed­time. Al­though I’m not ashamed, I don’t want to have to ex­plain why I am tak­ing the med­i­ca­tion be­cause I’m afraid there may be a stigma at­tached to it. I don’t know what to do. If I try to vary the times, I end up for­get­ting to take a pill. What should I do? — PRE­SCRIBED IN SAN AN­TO­NIO

DEAR PRE­SCRIBED: Take the med­i­ca­tion on time as in­structed by your physi­cian. If you need a re­minder, pro­gram it into your cell­phone. There’s no more stigma at­tached to tak­ing med­i­ca­tion to pre­vent headaches than there is in tak­ing it for any other med­i­cal rea­son. If you pre­fer not to be ques­tioned about it, ex­cuse your­self and do it in the re­stroom.

DEAR ABBY: Hi. I have a prob­lem. My best friend is mov­ing away to a dif­fer­ent state this sum­mer. School is end­ing soon. She is my only friend, and I’m cur­rently dat­ing her brother. He’s the only boy I like, and she is my only friend. I don’t know what to do.

I’ll be in ninth grade in a cou­ple of months, which means I’ll have to start high school with­out a best friend or a boyfriend. What should I do? I’ll be all alone. — SA­VAN­NAH IN COLORADO

DEAR SA­VAN­NAH: Not quite! A lot of changes oc­cur when stu­dents leave the lower grades and start high school. Even estab­lished friend­ships can change. When school be­gins, many of your class­mates will be in ex­actly the same po­si­tion as you.

If you are friendly, I’m sure you’ll find oth­ers who will be open to be­ing friendly to you.

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