Mis­tress stops be­liev­ing man will leave his fam­ily for her

The Washington Times Daily - - LIFE - ABI­GAIL VAN BUREN ● Dear Abby is writ­ten by Abi­gail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Con­tact Dear Abby at www.DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los An­ge­les, CA 90069. AN­DREWS MCMEEL SYN­DI­CA­TION

DEAR ABBY: I am a 24-year-old pro­fes­sional wo­man who has been hav­ing an af­fair with a mar­ried man for three years. We have great chem­istry, a pas­sion­ate sex life, end­less laughs and give each other a lot of sup­port. He’s mar­ried and has chil­dren, and when he is with them I find my­self in­cred­i­bly jeal­ous. I feel left out, and I no longer be­lieve he will ever be with me, al­though he says he will.

Be­cause of his le­gal sta­tus in the U.S., it could take a few years be­fore he be­comes a cit­i­zen and is able to di­vorce. Should we take a break and re­visit our re­la­tion­ship in a few years, or should I stick by him un­til ev­ery­thing is sorted out? — JEAL­OUS CON­FUSED LOVEBIRD

DEAR LOVEBIRD: I’m all for tak­ing that break. The sta­tus quo is painful. As things stand, there are no guar­an­tees your lover will ever leave his wife and chil­dren for you. If you take a break, you might meet some­one who is el­i­gi­ble and ac­tu­ally will­ing (and able) to build a fu­ture with you. I say, go for it.

DEAR ABBY: My hus­band takes per­sonal and busi­ness calls on his cell­phone. When I’m with him, I ask who is call­ing be­fore he picks up. He thinks this is “un­usual” and be­comes up­set when I do. I think it is a cour­tesy to let me know who he is talk­ing to, since I am usu­ally left sit­ting in the car next to him or at the ta­ble with an un­fin­ished meal, play­ing a guess­ing game of “who is on the other end.” Should I bite my tongue, or should he let me know? — WHO’S CALL­ING

DEAR WHO’S: Un­less your hus­band is a doc­tor or a bail bonds­man, he shouldn’t be tak­ing busi­ness calls when you’re hav­ing a meal to­gether. If the call is im­por­tant, he can re­turn it af­ter you have fin­ished eat­ing. As to be­ing cu­ri­ous about who’s on the other end of the line, if it’s a friend, your hus­band could do what I do — and that’s men­tion the name of the per­son in his greet­ing or dur­ing the course of the con­ver­sa­tion.

I don’t think your cu­rios­ity is “un­usual.” Quite the op­po­site, in fact. But for heaven’s sake, stop al­low­ing your food to get cold while you wait for him to fin­ish talk­ing. Eat it while it’s hot!

DEAR ABBY: This might seem like a triv­ial ques­tion, but it’s one that has been both­er­ing me for a long time. Does any­one else read the comics back to front, last to first? I sim­ply can’t en­joy read­ing them the “nor­mal” way. Am I a hor­ri­ble per­son? Do I have OCD? Am I an­ti­so­cial? Should I write to “Dear Abby”? Oh wait. That’s what I’m do­ing. Help! — GARY IN SAN DIEGO

DEAR GARY: You are none of the above. Some peo­ple do the same thing with mys­tery nov­els be­cause they can’t stand the sus­pense.

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