Dennis Prager’s article “Five non-religious arguments for marriage” (Oct. 9 edition) was excellent and one with which I completely agree. I would like to be so bold as to add somethingtothe“why”ofpointsfourandfive. Point four described how marriage is viewed by family and friends as probably the most important event in one’s life. The fifth point relates how the marriage transforms the couple into members of two families. Why do all of your family and friends attend the grand event? To approve of your sexual orientation and to wish you a great sex life? Why do the families care that you are now a part? Just to get more Christmas cards?
Friends, family and society at large care about a marriage because it, usually, means a union that will produce that indespensible product for the preservation of family and, yes, society itself — children. That is what marriage is all about — children. This fact seems to have been sadly neglected in the past several decades. Marriage is now all about what the adults want in the way of selfgratification. For centuries mankind has constructed all kinds of devices to protect, encourage and strengthen families. In less than 50 years, we have weakened or destroyed many of these devices. The sanctity of marriage, defined as the union of a man and a woman (the only combination that can produce a child) is the device that deserves the most protection from all of us. Gay or straight, married or single, we are all in this together. If that magic 2.1 babies per couple slips too much, we are all headed for the societal death spiral that is rapidly claiming Western Europe.
All of us should work together to keep marriage the sole and sacred province of those courageousfolkswhointendtohavechildren. The rest of us should be content with a civil unionthatbestowsallofthelegalbenefitsthat pertaintothecommittedbutchildfreecouple.
In the meantime, the next time you see a womantowingthreeormorekidsaroundthe grocerystore,stopandthankher;she’sadding that elusive 0.1 baby that others have missed. R.E. Wasson Cupertino, California