Chil­dren are a bless­ing, not dis­rup­tion

The Washington Times Weekly - - Letters To The Editor -

Your ar­ti­cles on mar­riage were sad, but I wish to en­lighten those who think that chil­dren are a dis­rup­tion. I have al­ways felt and said that if you are wait­ing un­til you “can af­ford” to raise a fam­ily you will never have a fam­ily. The prob­lem is that we are be­com­ing too af­flu­ent. The Bi­ble states that “the lust for money is the root of all kinds of evil” (1 Ti­mothy 6:10, among oth­ers). All the things that peo­ple want are re­lated to “money.” It is ac­tu­ally a form of self­ish­ness and greed. As I see it, this is the prime cause of the down­fall of our so­ci­ety and fam­ily. Peo­ple who feel this way miss all the joy of hav­ing chil­dren. Sure they can cause anx­i­eties and strains in the process of rear­ing them, but what an empty life it would be with­out them. My wife and I worked to put me through den­tal school and our first child was not a hin­drance, but was ac­tu­ally a joy to break up the stresses of com­plet­ing the ed­u­ca­tion and pre­par­ing for our fu­ture.

I come from an im­mi­grant fam­ily (Ger­mans­fromRus­sia),an­dit­was­com­mon­to­have large fam­i­lies (we are 11 sib­lings). It was usu­ally ben­e­fi­tial to have large fam­i­lies to help work on the farm. It also be­came a home for the par­ents in their old age. My par­ents’ life, as im­mi­grants, was a one of what I call eat, sleep,work and go to church. We did not have all the “things” that peo­ple to­day seem to feel are nec­es­sary for hap­pi­ness. When you wrote of the ben­fits of mar­riage, you did not in­clude the clin­i­cal re­la­tion­ships of par­ents and chil- dren, i.e., the love and nur­tur­ing of a fam­ily. Then there is grand­par­ent­ing, which is de­light­ful,bu­tal­sostress­fulin­wor­ryingabout­the grand­chil­dren and their fu­ture as you see it.

There is one ad­di­tional piece of the pie that you failed to in­clude. Your chil­dren will be there for you in your age­ing re­tire­ment years, wheny­oumayneed­spir­i­tual,may­be­fi­nan­cial and so­cial sup­port. It might be necessry for them­to­be­y­our­source­of­care­in­stead­of­farm­ing out your par­ents to a se­nior re­tire­ment fa­cil­ity. My wife and I had my mother for 17 year­spri­or­to­herdeath.What­a­b­less­ing.Now we have her mother for the same as­sis­tance. Surethere­maythe­day­when­we­can­not­phys­i­cally han­dle her and she may need as­sisted liv­ing, but in the mean­time, we are a bless­ing to her and she to us. Those who choose not to have chil­dren do not have the ben­e­fit and bless­ing of chil­dren to sup­port and com­fort them in the older years.

We have been on mis­sion­ary trips to third world coun­tries where we saw that it is nat­u­ral for the chil­dren to take care of the their age­ing par­ents. We as a so­ci­ety are miss­ing our sense of re­spon­si­bil­ity to our par­ents who nur­ture­du­sand­cared­forus.Nowit'sourturn to re­turn the fa­vor. As I am now in semi-re­tire­ment I think what an empty ex­is­tence it would be with­out chil­dren to visit and off­fer guid­ance. Norman C. Bit­ter Fresno, Cal­i­for­nia

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